How To Tell Your Ex You Still Love Him After He’s Moved On
Updated December 14, 2018
Reviewer Wendy Galyen, LCSW, BC-TMH
Want to know how to tell your ex you still love him after he's already moved on?
It is normal to miss your ex and the relationship that you once shared after being broken up for a while. If your ex has already moved on and you haven't, it can be even harder. When you're feeling lonely, you might think of what it would be like to get back together.
Unfortunately, you now have a new obstacle in your way. He's moving on with someone else. This makes your decision a little more complicated. How do you tell your ex that you still love him when he is starting a new relationship with someone else?
How to Tell Your Ex You Still Love Him
Before you go ahead with it, you should take some time to consider whether this is what you truly want. What do you hope the outcome will be if you tell your ex that you still love him? Now that your ex is happy and moving on with his new girlfriend, how do you think that he will react to hearing that you still love him?
What it really comes down to is, are you okay with breaking up a relationship? You also need to be prepared by knowing that the outcome might not be what you hope for.
If you and your ex have a long history together, were married, or have kids, there's a bigger likelihood of both of you deciding to work it out. try to arrange an honest conversation with your ex if you think that the two of you are meant for each other.
Another way that you could relay this message is through a heartfelt letter telling your ex about your feelings, but of course that letter could be found and read by someone else. Just be aware that both scenarios could lead to drama with him, his new girlfriend, or both.
Where Can I Go to Gain Some Clarity?
If you are unsure what your next move should be, speaking to a counselor can give you a better sense of how you feel about the situation and why. It's possible that you think that you still love your ex because you're lonely and don't see that there could be someone better out there waiting for you.
A counselor can help you see things from a different perspective and help you get over any emotional issues resulting from your breakup, so you can heal. You can find a counselor in your local area based on recommendations from friends and family, or even sign up for an online counseling service like BetterHelp.
If you're suffering from depression, anxiety, or other challenges after your breakup, know that you are not alone. Many people suffer from mental illness or experience times when coping isn't easy. Effective treatments like counseling and medication exist to help you bounce back and start to feel more like yourself again.
Watching your ex move on with someone else can be a painful experience. You might even start to have second thoughts about your breakup. You wish you could tell him you still love him and make everything go back to normal. The problem is, now that he's started to move on he might not be open to getting back together.
Talking to someone, like a friend or counselor, can help you make sense of these feelings and figure out what you should do. Breakups can be tough, so don't be afraid to seek social support along the way.