Being Aromantic: Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How do I know if I am aromantic?
Romance and sexuality and how you experience them are entirely that – experiential. No one else can tell you exactly where you might land on the aromantic spectrum. And, it probably wouldn’t matter a great deal to you if they could.
Things like the Kinsey scale can give you a ballpark for determining terminology based on things like the aromantic spectrum so that you can use them as a communication tool, likely for potential partners. However, that doesn’t mean that it has to define you to yourself.
Can You Be Aromantic without being asexual?
As discussed above, it isn’t common but some people are romantic without being asexual. Romantic attraction and sexual attraction often go together, but they don’t have to.
Is aromantic part of LGBT?
That depends on how you like your acronyms.
“LGBT” stands for “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender.” However, you may also have seem “LGBTQ,” which stands for “[LGBT] Queer,” where “queer” just means “non-straight" - a term that arguably includes aromontic people. Some people further expand the acronym to “LGBTQIAA” where one of the As stands for “Asexual.”
The short answer is, while “Aromantic” may or may not be explicitly included in LGBT+, LGBT+ exists as a way of supporting people living non-straight experiences, which usually includes aromantic and asexual people. Because this group is possibly the most accepting group of people on the planet, you probably don’t need to worry about being ostracized by them for your lack of romantic or sexual attraction.
Can an aromantic have a crush?
“Crush” is kind of a big umbrella, and it’s changing all the time. We used the definition “romantic attraction without close personal acquaintance” earlier in the article. That’s you classic “school yard crush” or the kind of crush that people may have for people like celebrities. Aromantic people don’t really get crushes of this sort because they don’t really experience romantic attraction.
However, terms like “career crush” refer to people that you may not personally know but that you look up to. If you explicitly link “crush” to romance, than no, most aromantic people don’t really experience them. If you consider a crush “admiring from a far,” than yes, aromantic people can experience crushes.
What is the Aromantic Flag?
The Aromantic Flag consists of one dark green bar on top of one light green bar on top of one white bar, on top of one grey bar, on top of one black bar.
For more information on the aromantic spectrum, including Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, check out this site.
What is ACE?
“ACE” is usually used as a sort of slang term for “asexual.” Asexual people may also be familiarly referred to as “aces.”
How do you know if you’re ACE?
You know if you’re ACE in that same way that you know anything about yourself – through experience. If you don’t experience sexual attraction by, say, your mid to late teenage years, it’s very likely that you’re ACE.
If you really want to pull out the stops, once again, look for things like Kinsey Tests.
Can aromantics get married?
Anyone can get married. There’s no test to determine whether you’re aromantic or not. Well, there sort of is, but no one makes you take it so that they can use the score to determine your marriageability.
Aromantic people can and do get married. Unfortunately, they may experience marital difficulties if their partner is a more romantically inclined person. Like any two people getting married, the important thing is to get to know one another and whether or not you believe you’re compatible.
What is the ACE Flag?
The ACE Flag is a black bar ontop of a grey bar on top of a white bar on top of a purple bar.
For more information about the ACE flag and other ACE awareness topics and online resources, visit the Asexual Visibility and Education Network.
What does homoromantic mean?
As per the terminology structure cited above, “Homoromantic” refers to romantic feelings towards individuals of the same gender as yourself. Again, a little reminder, being homoromantic does not necessarily mean that you are homosexual.
What is an ACE in LGBT?
ACE individuals are often included in the LGTB community because of their non-heterosexual experience. However, be advised, having non-heterosexual experiences is not the same as having LGBT experiences. Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, and Transgender peoples are far more likely to experience far more significant stigma than ACE individuals.
What is aromantic in LGBT?
This is a bit of a touchy subject. LGBT is focused on gender expression and sexual identity which is closely linked to romantic experience and expression for most people but is not exactly the same for everyone.
As discussed above, some asexual people (which includes most aromantic people) can find some space under the LGBTQIAA+ umbrella as non-hetersexual persons. But, strictly speaking, aromantic people are not included in LGBT.
What does a crush feel like?
The feeling of a crush is classically difficult to pin down and how (or if) you experience a crush changes based on where you land on the aromantic spectrum.
The best way to describe a crush might be a feeling of romantic attraction or of close interest and admiration for a person that you don’t know or don’t know well in person.
What does it mean to Have a type?
To have a “type” means that there is a specific set of characteristics or physical features that cause a person to experience romantic or sexual attraction.
It may be redheads, or muscles, or lack of muscles, etc.
What is it like to be in love?
This is an impossible question to answer. Partially because, as we’ve seen through this article, how different people express and feel love is drastically different from person to person.
Further, also as discussed in this article, there are many different kinds of love. The generally accepted answer to this question is “You know it when you experience it.”
What does the pink, purple, and blue flag mean?
The pink, purple, and blue flag is the bisexual awareness flag.
What are the pansexual colors?
The colors on the pansexual flag are pink, yellow, and blue.
Is there a straight Pride Flag?
There is not a widely accepted “straight pride flag.”
The whole reason for flags for people with different experiences has to do with the underrepresentation of those persons by a largely heteronormative world. As a result, heterosexual people don’t require greater visibility and their sexual orientation makes for less of an impact on the ways in which they experience their lives.
What does “GREY ACE” mean?
“GREY ACE” is a space within the asexual community for people who experience sexual attraction but not as often or not as intensely as most people. As a result, while they may not be entirely aromantic, they may identify more firmly with aromantic persons than with persons of other sexual orientations.
What causes asexuality?
Asexuality, like any sexual expression, asexuality isn’t usually “caused” by anything - it’s just a part of who you are.
However, for some people, asexuality can be caused by low testosterone. This hormone naturally declines in men around middle age but it can also be thrown off by some physiological conditions or medications.
Basically, if you have always been asexual, it’s probably just who you are as a person and that’s okay. If you used to be more sexual and have noticed a decline in your sex drive lately, talk to your primary care provider.
Aromantic vs. asexual: what does asexual mean in LGBTIA?
The final “A” in LGBTIA is often interpreted as either “Asexual” or “ally” - someone who is not LGBT but supports LGBT causes.
Does ace mean 1?
The “ace” in a deck of cards was historically the lowest in the suite. However, the game has changed! In most games of poker, the ace serves as a high card, trumping even the King and other face cards. However, in some games, an ace can also be one, allowing 1-2-3-4-5 straight runs.
Similarly, in black jack – a game in which the objective is to have cards with a numerical value close to or equal to but not exceeding 21 – the ace can commonly be worth either 1 or 11. Because all face cards are worth 10 in black jack, this once again, makes the ace a potential de facto high card.
Are asexual people called “ACEs” because they are alone? Probably not.
What does the title Ace mean?
The title “Ace” can mean a lot of things, largely because ACE is a common acronym. It could stand for “Autocad Certified Engineer,” “Aircraft Carrier Engineer,” anything.
What does your ACE score mean?
On the topic of acronyms, an ACE score has to do with the experience of people who suffer from childhood abuse. It has nothing to do with asexuality, aromantics, or the aromantic spectrum.
What does it mean to be Greysexual?
“Greysexual” is a shorter form of “grey asexual” - that term used above for people who fall on the asexual or aromantic spectrum but sometimes experience sexual attraction or urges.
What Is Sexuality?
At least five sexualities are widely recognized. These are heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, and asexual. However, some also identify other sexualities including demisexuality. There are many more valid sexualities that exist, and mainstream society is beginning to learn about them.
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