Addressing Yourself First: How To Not Be Needy

By Marie Miguel

Updated December 10, 2018

Reviewer Aaron Dutil

Finding Your Best You


When you are having a day or moment where you are irritable or easily annoyed, it can sometimes be hard to recognize what is causing it. It's important to remind yourself that your thoughts can be impacted erratically by anxiety while acknowledging that this is natural and not invalid because of the source. Adhering to certain self-care practices can reduce the frequency and intensity of anxiety. Getting regular exercise is a great activity to pave the way for a calmer and more positive you. While you may feel as if you need to learn how to not be needy, in actuality, you need to show yourself the care and love that you deserve.

How to Not be Needy

We all have things in our lives in which we could improve or alter our approach to life. By getting yourself upset as you think about your problems or negative stressors, your anxiety may increase as your attention shifts more and more to the negative things in your life. BetterHelp was created with the goal of providing access to mental health care to more people conveniently and affordably. Sometimes getting a new lease on life can require a lot of difficult introspection, but you can get a jump start when you talk with someone that can point you in the direction of where to begin. We all need to find ways to reduce stress, maintain a healthy work/life balance while cultivating our mental and physical well-being, along with nurturing important relationships in our lives.


Is it You?

Being angry at someone in your life, even someone that you love can often be a result of the various circumstances in your life. Whether it be a busy week and you're feeling emotionally drained, or work has piled up and you haven't slept great in a while, it's important to take a step back and realize that you aren't truly angry at them, but at the stress that they are bringing, directly or indirectly, into your life. Also, cutting toxic people out of your life is important but can be difficult, often being a step that many people can't follow through with. Sometimes those closest to us or those we have deep emotional ties with can be those that can hurt us the deepest.


Recognizing Your Cues

Anxiety, essentially, is a response to a shift in the brain. You are feeling threatened. Its processes lead you to absorb and translate sensory cues as threats from your environment rather than you might when feeling safe, leading you to misinterpret cues or experience over the top emotional reactions. Anxiety tends to be genetic and can run in families. Talking with your parents or other family members about their experiences can be a good way to understand your own struggles with it.

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