Why Don’t People Like Me?
Sometimes you may get the feeling that nobody likes you or that you have no friends. It may be that you are just shy or have social anxiety. Social anxiety is the third largest mental health disorder in the world. This type of anxiety can make you believe that people do not like you even if you have hundreds of friends. In fact, anxiety can be tricky enough to cause you to lose friends.
What is Social Anxiety?
Social anxiety is a common disorder that causes fear and anxiety before or during social situations like talking to new people, speaking in public, answering questions in class, talking on the phone, dating, and even eating in public. The person has an extreme fear of being ridiculed, judged, or humiliated during any of these social activities. Being rejected or embarrassed can cause such a panic in some people that they may not be able to go out in public at all. This fear can also manifest itself in physical symptoms such as pain or nausea, which prevent the person from being able to attend class, get a job, or have a relationship with anyone.
Signs of Social Anxiety
Some of the symptoms of social anxiety include:
- Avoiding public places
- Serious fear of being judged
- Extreme self-consciousness
- Fear of meeting new people
- Avoiding eye contact
- Afraid of speaking in public
- Sweating or shaking
- Rapid heart rate
- Believing that others are laughing at you
How Can Social Anxiety Make People Dislike Me?
In some situations, social anxiety can cause you to panic if someone doesn't say hello when they see you or if a friend doesn't answer a text or phone call right away. This may cause you to go overboard by sending a multitude of messages or leave a voice mail accusing them of avoiding you. You may also get mad at someone you believe is avoiding you when in fact, that person is not doing that at all. Some friends may be able to overlook this if it happens a few times, but not if it keeps happening over and over again.
What Causes Social Anxiety?
Nobody really knows what causes social anxiety, but some experts believe it may be hereditary like depression and bipolar disorder. Research studies revealed that there are parts of the brain that are involved in anxiety and fear. A chemical imbalance in the brain could possibly cause social anxiety in some people. It may also be that you were misreading people's behavior and you believe they are judging you when they are not. You may see someone in a crowd laughing while you are talking and you think that they are laughing at you, when they are actually laughing at a joke someone told them. Scientists are still researching anxiety disorder to find out more about it.
How Can I Make It Stop?
There are ways to treat social anxiety such as medication and therapy. However, the first step in treating social anxiety is realizing that you have a problem. Believing that people just do not like you is very unrealistic. Everyone has felt this way at one point, but if you feel like this all the time, then, you need to speak to someone and get help. There are professional therapists online that can help and support groups where you can talk to others with this condition. Sometimes, just talking about it can improve the way you think and feel.