Why Do I Have No Life?

Updated November 25, 2021
Medically Reviewed By: April Brewer , DBH, LPC

Do you feel like you've hit a point in your life where you feel dissatisfied with your routines and choices? Does it seem as though life just isn't what it used to be? This doesn't necessarily mean that you have “no life”; perhaps you've just lost touch with parts of your life that sparked interest and motivation. Many people experience periods of dissatisfaction or feelings of stagnation after going through transitions like graduating, changing careers, or moving. Some individuals experience loneliness or social isolation even while living near friends and family. Whatever your situation, you are not alone, and with the right tools, your life can be fuller and more satisfying.

Do You Feel Like You're Just Drifting Through Life?

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Feeling a Lack of Purpose

You may feel like you're just drifting through life with nothing truly important to do, almost as if you have no purpose to drive you. Believe it or not, that's okay. It can often be overwhelming to think that you need to focus your life on some big end goal. Many people experience drifting at some point in their lives.

Rather than spend your energy trying to answer the massive question of your life's purpose, try asking yourself a simpler question. Ask "What would be a good use of my time today?" instead. You'll find it much easier to answer to this one. In fact, there may be several activities that you would like to pursue. You can break these down into smaller, more manageable goals and interests.

Keep in mind that a “good” use of your time does not have to mean productive, lucrative, popular, or even logical. Allow yourself the space to explore positive interests and passions, even if they feel random. Enjoy trying new things and discovering which ones bring meaning to your life. You may have different purposes at different stages of life, so don't worry about changing your mind at any age.

Facing Fear

Fear can stop people from living the life they desire. Maybe you tried something new and experienced failure. It could be that you lost someone you cared about the last time you took a risk. Fear can influence people over time in many ways. It can cause you to shy away from people, avoid trying new hobbies, or stop doing things you used to enjoy. It can even make you feel like your life doesn’t matter. It can be difficult to overcome these fears because few people realize that the fear itself is the root of the problem.

No matter how fear is impacting your feelings of worth and meaning, know that you always have the power to take action and make a change. The following suggestions will show you how you can start living life to the fullest again, even if you currently do not feel motivated.

Start Volunteering

If you're feeling stuck, you might be focusing too much time and energy on yourself, or on problems that are too big to be solved by one person. If you aren't sure how to spend your time, try looking for organizations where you can volunteer. Pick a cause that means something to you. If you find fulfillment in helping animals, volunteer at a local animal shelter. If you care about helping children, consider becoming a mentor through a community organization. If you want to help put an end to food or housing insecurity, then reach out to a local nonprofit or other organization, and find out how you can help.

The important thing is to find something that gets you out of your home and encourages you to be around other people. You'll start making connections with other people who have similar interests and passions.

Reconnect with Old Friends

Instead of, or in addition to, making new friends, you might find it easier to reconnect with old ones. Sometimes, we lose contact with people simply because we're busy. If you've lost touch with a close friend, think about reconnecting with them. Give them a call, send a text, or arrange to meet up. Conversations with old friends tend to be relatively easy because you have shared experiences.

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Let Go of Old Friendships When You Need To

However, sometimes holding on to old friendships can keep us from forming new ones. If your old friends have moved on to different stages of life, then it might be time to move on or take a break. It's okay to accept that your old friendships don’t fit the way they used to. You can cherish the fond memories, but don't let that stop you from going out and making new friends.

Overcome Social Anxiety

Rather than spending time surfing the internet or keeping to yourself, try to branch out and discover activities that put you in the same vicinity as other people. Perhaps try talking with someone you don't know. Practice your conversation skills in low-stakes situations like grocery stores, libraries, or even parks. As you find activities you enjoy and practice conversations, you'll eventually feel more comfortable in social situations.

Find a Meetup Group

Meetup can help you discover a group of people who share your interests. A quick web search might lead you to a group that meets for running, paddle boarding, or hiking. Perhaps you'll find a group that attends plays or even goes out to dinner. Especially if you've just moved to a new place, meetups are a straightforward way to meet new people and become more socially active.

Meditate

It may sound weird, but meditation can help you get back in touch with who you are as a person. With meditation practice, you can reduce brain fog by enhancing your state of consciousness. When you stimulate your mind in a healthy way, you may find yourself more willing and motivated to engage with life.

Read a Book

Approximately 76 percent of American adults have read at least one book in the past year. While there's nothing wrong with watching a little TV or YouTube every now and then, a good book can be educational and entertaining. It can also inspire you to go out and live your own adventures.

Talk to a Therapist

If you find yourself asking, “Why do I have no life?” know that you are not alone in asking that question. Many individuals experience periods of self-doubt or low motivation. These feelings may stem from a past trauma or heartache, or they might be symptoms of anxiety or depression, or they might have emerged after a transition or life change. Whatever the cause, feeling this way does not doom you to a life of loneliness or drifting; it just means that you might need to try something new or seek some additional help to continue on your way. Assistance from a mental health professional can help you find greater meaning in your life, relationships, and surroundings. Online therapy services offered by BetterHelp could be a good fit.

Online therapy is flexible, affordable, and private; because you can arrange your sessions with a therapist around your schedule and lifestyle, you can meet whenever and wherever you’d like, via video chat, phone call, or text message. Additionally, online therapy is more affordable than in-person treatments, and you can access the best-match therapist for you. Here are reviews from BetterHelp users who have worked with online therapists to find greater meaning.

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"Marysue has been a great support to my path of self-discovery and healing. She is kind, patient, professional and above all a pleasant human being that cares. Thank you."

Do You Feel Like You're Just Drifting Through Life?

"Julie has been absolutely amazing. She has listened to my concerns, helped me to feel supported and less alone while I navigate unfamiliar waters with a situation I have never faced before. She is easy to talk to and comforting as well as encouraging and positive. I am so grateful for the time she has put into our professional relationship and all of the advice she has given me. She has helped me to start to feel like myself again."

 

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