I Keep Asking Myself: Why Am I Such A Failure?

It's Hard to Live Life Feeling Like A Failure. We Make Mistakes At Times
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You may think you are a failure because you did something wrong or because something bad happened to you that you believe is your fault. Maybe you got in trouble at work or your significant other criticizes you. It could be that your family is putting those ideas in your head by telling you things they think you should be doing with your life. Even strangers can make you feel like a failure with critical comments on social media. However, failing at something does not make you a failure. Focusing on your failures will not only make you feel bad, it can cause depression and lower your self-value.

Is It Low Self-Esteem or Depression?

Most people would not worry too much if their boss told them they messed up or if their parents told them they need to do something different with your life. In fact, all of us have been called a failure at least once in our lives. But, if you are taking these things too seriously and letting the comments make you feel like you really are a failure, you may have low self-esteem or depression.

Low Self-Esteem

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Self-esteem is important to your mental health but you have to have the right amount of it to feel best. Not enough self-esteem can make you self-conscious and believe that you are not as worthy as others. This can eventually turn into depression, which can negatively affect your life in many ways.Too much self-esteem will make you feel like you are in a higher class than others and that you deserve to have things better than anyone else. Low self-esteem usually starts in childhood and could be from a rough upbringing or difficult life events, abuse, neglect, and even from living in poverty.


It's Hard to Live Life Feeling Like A Failure. We Make Mistakes At Times
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Depression is a common mental health disorder that can create havoc in your life and make you feel like a failure sometimes. Across the United States, an estimated 16 million people (7% of the population) have had at least one episode of depression in the past year. Women are 70% more likely to get depression than men. Some of the symptoms include:

  • Feeling unusually sad for more than two weeks
  • Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much
  • Lack of appetite or eating more than usual
  • Inability to concentrate
  • Extreme fatigue
  • Loss of interest in activities you usually enjoy
  • Feeling hopeless or lost
  • Chronic pain
  • Thoughts of harming yourself

What You Can Do to Help

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There are several treatments for depression including medication such as antidepressants, cognitive therapy, brain stimulation therapy, and psychotherapy (talk therapy). Low self-esteem can also be treated with medication if it is severe enough to disrupt your daily activities but it is usually treated with talk therapy as well. If you do not have a therapist, there are many websites online that have professionals who are trained in this field. You do not have to make an appointment or go to an office. You can talk to someone online or on the phone from the comfort of your home. They also have support groups and chat rooms that can help. You are not a failure.

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