What Is It Like To See A Counselor For Focus Therapy?
By Julia Thomas
Updated March 06, 2020
Reviewer Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC
Focus therapy also called focused therapy or focus-oriented psychotherapy is based on the individual's own bodily sense of what is right for them. In other types of therapy, the therapist typically pays attention to the behaviors and words of the individual to identify problems and "fix" the person. However, in focused therapy, sessions revolve around exploring the problem and the "felt sense" so you can find the right solution for yourself.
Because its more focused on your thoughts and feelings about what's happening in your life it can often help you to feel more involved in the process. After all, you'll be able to make decisions about what you're currently doing right and what you could be doing better. You'll also be able to make more of the decisions about how to change your current way of thinking and way of acting to be more positive and successful.
This type of therapy is uniquely centered on treating the individual with dignity and respect. Rather than assuming the therapist knows more than the person who is receiving the therapy, focused therapy relies on a therapist who honors the individual's overall bodily sense of what has happened, what the implications of it are, and what solution will work for them. You get more control in this type of therapy and that can actually impact the overall success as well.
How often have you listened to someone tell you what to do and thought 'they don't know anything about me' or 'they don't know what they're talking about?' With this type of therapy, you don't have to worry about that because your therapist is actually there more as a sounding board to let you talk and explain what's going on in your life and how it's impacting you. Rather than giving you advice they simply acknowledge what you have to say and let you create the solutions that are going to work best for you.
The Therapist's Goal Is to Understand
How often have you been in therapy or just talking to a friend and felt as if they were listening only with the intention of correcting you or telling you how to act and who to be? Unfortunately, that's the way most therapy works and the way that most therapists choose to try and 'help' you along. It generally does all right but there are limits to what this type of therapy can do because none of us really likes to sit back and do what someone else tells us to do.
In focus-oriented therapy, the counselor's primary goal is to hear and understand you. As they practice the intention to understand, you also learn how to work towards your own inner understanding. You'll actually be able to listen to yourself as well and to understand what it is that's most important to you. You'll also be able to work out just what it is that you want most in your life and just what you need in order to be successful in changing your ways.
Learning to Be Fully Engaged with Your Experience
When your life is busy, your days can seem to fly by. You might not be fully aware of what is happening or how you feel about it. If your life seems boring, you may ignore the details because they seem too mundane. In focus therapy, you learn to live each moment as it happens and consider it on a deeper level during the moment and after the fact. When you recognize the significance of the situation you are in, you can be a better judge of what the best solution is for you.
This can help you in making decisions throughout your life and it can help you to come to conclusions you might not have in any other way. You'll be able to engage in everything you do as well because the techniques and processes that you learn through your therapy sessions can be applied in all areas of your life. You're learning how to problem solve and how to make the decisions that make the most sense for you. That's going to work no matter what you're doing.
Finding the Steps to Solve Problems
As you talk about your life and the situations that cause you the most trouble, the therapist is also in touch with their own felt sense of the situation. They employ creativity as the guide to the conversation so that you find the answers you seek from within yourself. Instead of trying to solve a major life problem, they help you focus on finding the solutions you need right now.
This type of therapy lets you see yourself as the therapist and the actual therapist as just an emotional springboard, helping to guide you in the right direction but letting you come to the conclusions on your own. They'll become the best friend that you wish you had, always willing and able to listen to you about whatever might be going on in your life, no matter how mundane it might seem. Then, they'll let you discuss all of the things that you want or need in order to make yourself feel better about your life.
You get to come up with the different steps in the process and you get to actually implement the steps too. Even more, you're going to be the one who is responsible for gauging whether the steps are working or if you need to make changes to your process. Because you're in control of everything you don't even need to be in a session to decide you're going to do something differently. You can do it anytime you want.
How It Feels When Focus Therapy Works
When you identify the next step to take and have an inner sense that the step is best for you, you immediately feel a bodily sense of relief. You feel physically better and healthier. And all of that happens in just those first few moments. Imagine what it's going to feel like after you've started this type of therapy and you've really started to make some of those changes. The first step toward this sense of lightness and relaxation may be to talk to a licensed therapist to see if focused therapy will help you. Once you talk with a professional you're going to see just how much better your life could be.
Don't you want to be happy and healthy, physically and mentally? With the help of a focused therapist, you're going to have no problem getting back on track and getting yourself moving in the right direction. It's going to take time and you're going to need to put some effort into it, but you can definitely make the changes that you need most and you can most definitely help to improve your quality of life in a very big way.