9 Signs A Man Is Falling In Love

Updated March 13, 2023by BetterHelp Editorial Team

You’re dating a guy, and it seems to be going well, but does he feel for you the way you do for him? Figuring out what’s going on in your partner’s head can feel like a major challenge, especially when you don’t yet have a lot of experience with him. What signs will you see when a man is falling in love with you?

Though the process may not be the same for everyone, certain tell-tale hints can show his feelings are getting deeper and stronger. As he starts to fall in love with you, his behavior will show that you and your happiness are important to him. See below for the most important indicators of love from the man you’re with.

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Do Men Fall In Love In A Different Way From Women?

This article is written for people who love men, but many of the signs of falling in love can apply to anyone. Science has found very few conclusive brain differences between men and women, and lots of things about romance are the same across gender lines. Even if you’re not a man, you might want to ask yourself how you would act if you were falling for someone — and then ask if that sounds like the man you’re dating.

That said, there are some statistical differences in the ways men, women, and non-binary individuals, likely due to differences in upbringing and social expectations. Those distinctions aren’t always the ones you might expect, though. For instance, though many people think of women as the more romantic gender, some studies indicate that men fall in love faster.

"Does he love me? How can I tell?" It’s hard to say for certain, but here are the following 9 signs that can be important clues that he’s falling in love.

#1: He Wants To Be Around You All The Time

In the early stages of the relationship, the guy you’re dating may be careful to space out dates with you, leaving time for the two of you to be apart. This could be because he doesn’t want to come across as obsessive, because he wants to preserve a sense of anticipation, or because he’s worried about getting too attached too quickly. But once he begins to fall for you, that desire for distance may go out the window.

Neurologically speaking, falling in love has some similarities with drug addiction. When a man seems to crave time with you and care less about playing it cool, it’s a good sign that his feelings are growing stronger. You may want to watch out for signs of controlling behavior, but in general, it’s a good sign if your boyfriend’s plans always seem to include you.

#2: He Says “We”

Pay attention to how the guy you’re seeing speaks in everyday conversations. When he’s discussing his schedule, his thoughts on life, and his hopes and dreams, do you notice him saying “we” a lot? For example, when someone asks what he’s up to next weekend, does he tend to say “I’m going to a concert with my girlfriend” or “We’re going to a concert?”

Researchers have found that as couples grow closer, they naturally tend to talk about themselves as a unit. More usage of “we” as opposed to “I” or “you” tends to be linked with greater intimacy and relationship satisfaction.

#3: He Lives For Your Smile

Many men feel a strong need to receive positive responses and encouragement from their partners. They often get a great deal of satisfaction from being able to spark positive feelings in the people they love. As the relationship grows stronger, the guy you’re dating may be constantly looking for signs of your affection. If he seems to light up when you smile, or if he does sweet little things just for the pleasure of seeing your happiness, he may be falling in love.

#4: He Knows How You Think

Does your partner seem to be deeply in tune with your feelings? Can he guess what’s on your mind and anticipate how you’ll react to things? This can be an important sign of increasing closeness. Love appears to activate parts of the brain associated with empathy, increasing your ability to see things from the other person’s point of view. When you tell your friends that your partner really “gets you”, it may be just another way of saying that he loves you.

#5: He Sees More In You Than You Do In Yourself

There’s a substantial amount of research indicating that people in loving, fulfilling relationships tend to exaggerate their partner’s good qualities and downplay their shortcomings. This doesn’t mean a good boyfriend or husband will be completely blind to your flaws. But it may mean he’s more inclined to forgive your failings and think of them as less important than your strengths.

Over time, a partner’s idealized image of you may even help you to see your good qualities more clearly and inspire you to become a better person. If you feel like the man you’re with builds you up, gives you strength, and pushes you to believe in yourself, it might be because he’s looking at you with the eyes of love.

#6: He Wants You To Meet His Friends And Family

When a man starts introducing you to the important people in his life, it’s likely because you’re beginning to matter a lot to you too If he’s still not sure how he feels about you, he may not want the people he cares about to get to know you just yet. Meeting his mom or his best friend doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going ring shopping, but it’s generally a sign that he thinks of you as a significant part of his life.

#7: He Lets You See His Vulnerabilities

The psychological theory known as the Quadruple Framework posits that trust is one of the four essential components of romantic love, as opposed to simple attraction and desire. When a guy merely likes you, he may want to put forward an image of himself as strong, smart, happy, and confident. But when he loves you, he’ll often begin to open up about the things that make him feel sad, insecure, or uncertain.

This can mean that he’s thinking of you as a true partner, someone he can rely on to help him get through life’s difficulties. And it could show that he trusts you not to mock or abuse his weaknesses. That may be an incredibly difficult leap for him to make, since our culture tends to make men afraid to show vulnerability.

#8: He Goes To You When Things Are Difficult

One way that a man who loves you might reveal his vulnerability is by seeking comfort from you when something goes wrong in his life. Sadness, pain, and fear can be difficult emotions for anyone, and many men instinctively respond to them by withdrawing and seeking solitude. However, when he loves you, he may regard you as one of the few people he can turn to for comfort.

The relief that your partner gets from your company may be surprisingly literal. Experiments have shown that the sight of a loved one’s picture can reduce the perception of even physical pain. When a man seems to feel better about his troubles simply from being around you, there’s a good chance it’s love.

#9: He Treats You As A Priority

Sometimes, the most powerful indication that a man is in love is that he takes your needs seriously. When you’re just someone he’s casually dating, he’s more likely to “fit you in” during his free time. Once genuine love begins to blossom, he’s more likely to go out of his way and make sacrifices to keep you happy.

Will he cancel plans with friends to come with you to the vet when your dog is sick? Does he show up every time your band has a gig at some tiny dive bar? Is he there to give you moral support as you’re practicing your speech for a big work conference? Of course, there will be times when it works the other way, and you’re the one making sacrifices for him. But healthy relationships involve give and take, and a man who’s never willing to put you first is probably not in love.

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Sometimes An Outside Perspective Can Give You Clarity

Even if you know the signs to look for, gauging someone else’s feelings can be tricky, especially when you’re emotionally invested. If you’re feeling uncertain about where your relationship is headed, it might help to talk with a therapist who’s experienced in addressing relationship issues. Therapy can offer you a new view of the situation, not to mention helping you sort through your own feelings.

Finding the right therapist for you can feel like a daunting task, but it’s often easier when you use online platforms like BetterHelp. Online therapy allows you to get a much wider pool of mental health professionals since geographic distance is no longer an issue. Scheduling and attending appointments can also be much simpler when you’re able to chat remotely.

Online therapy has shown substantial effectiveness in research trials. A meta-analysis of studies including nearly 10,000 clients found that internet-based counseling provided significant improvement for most clients. The researchers found no statistical differences in effectiveness between online and in-person therapy, and they concluded that their research provided “strong support” for online counseling as a viable form of therapy.

Takeaway

A man who’s falling in love tends to show his desire for greater closeness and intimacy in many different ways. He will likely prioritize spending time with you and put in real effort to make you happy. He may show you his softer side, while also serving as a source of strength and comfort when you need it most. Most likely, it will be a combination of all of the above, with his actions, words, and attitude all showing you how much your relationship means to him.

Below are some commonly asked questions on this topic:

How does a man act when he's falling in love?
How do you know if a man loves you secretly?
How does a man show his love without saying it?
How do you tell if a guy has feelings for you?
In what way does a man express his love to a woman?
What are the physical signs of love?
Can you tell if someone loves you by their eyes?
What does it mean if you keep thinking about someone?
What triggers emotional attraction in a man?
What makes a man fall deeply in love with a woman?

What are 3 hidden signs a man is falling in love with you?

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) & Answers

How Do You Find Out If A Person Is Falling In Love With You?

Not every man is the same and there might not be any undeniable signs a man is falling in love unless he tells you, but there are some signs a man is falling in love that you can watch for. For example, you can watch his body language. He's likely to turn his body towards you when in conversation and to make eye contact with you. He may pay attention to you more than others that are around. He's also likely to try spending time with you more than with others when he's falling in love.

You may find that he's willing to do things with you that he wouldn't do otherwise such as watching a "chick flick". He shows interest in things that you're interested in and makes sacrifices to spend more time with you. His friends and family may start to notice a change in his behavior and a meeting with the parents may take place.

What Happens To A Person When They Like You?

When men fall in love, their priorities may begin to shift. He begins paying attention to things in a different way as he begins to have deeper feelings for his partner. He begins to care more about what his partner needs and wants above what he wants. He starts to think about the future as a couple instead of just as his own. His long-term plans may begin to adapt to include the other person.

It's also believed that when he's falling in love, he experiences less physical pain as endorphins and oxytocin, the “love hormone,” is being released more often and in greater quantities.

How Quickly Do Men Develop Feelings?

When it comes to how quickly it happens, there's a good chance that he's falling in love faster than you are. It's even believed that men are more likely to fall in love at first sight compared to women. However, it's important to remember that not all men are the same, and every individual no matter their gender is different. Sometimes a man falling in love may not realize that it's happening. On the other hand, a man may realize he's falling in love immediately because he's purposefully looking for this type of relationship.

What Are The Signs Someone Is Infatuated?

When in love, a man can feel many different ways. He may notice that his attention and goals start to shift. One such example would be that he's interested in you and building a relationship and not just thinking about his sex life.

When he's falling in love, everything is likely to become about her. He can't stop thinking about her and would rather be spending time with her than doing anything else.

He may feel scared about the relationship and where it's headed, or he might just have a comfortable feeling about the entire thing. The way that a man feels when he's in love or when he's falling in love is going to vary based on his personality and specific life situation. For example, someone struggling with mental health challenges like anxiety or depression may feel different during this time than someone else.

What Are The Signs A Person Is Confused About His Feelings For You?

If a man is confused and not quite sure if he's falling for you or not, you may find that you're getting mixed signals from him. He may seem interested one day and then act differently the next time you see him.

You may also notice that he seems jealous of the attention that you give to other guys but also doesn't seem to attempt to be exclusive with you either. Overall, if a guy is confused about his feelings and whether he's falling for you or not, he most likely going to leave you feeling confused about where you stand. Mixed signals are a red flag and should be respectfully but candidly discussed to make sure you’re both on the right page or end things if you’re not.

What Makes A Person Develop Feelings For A Woman?

When he's falling for you, many things can contribute to it. For many men, it involves being physically attracted to the woman. But if he's in love, it's not just about the physical attraction. Men like to have things in common with their partners. Most men want to enjoy spending time with the woman he's in love with.

Trust and respect are also important factors in love. If he's falling deeply in love, it's most likely because he thinks that he's found the complete package.

What Are The Signs A Person Likes You But Is Scared?

Even if he's scared, there are some signs a man is falling in love with you that you can watch for. For example, paying attention to his body language can be a great sign. You may notice that he's staring your way a lot and holding eye contact with you. You may also notice that he blushes easily around you or appears nervous.

You may also hear that he's been talking about you to the important people in his life like family or close friends. Or, you may notice that he makes it a goal to interact with all of your social media posts. There may be lots of little signs like this that show he's falling for you. But if you aren't paying attention and looking for them, you may not notice.

If you're struggling to determine if he's in love with you or how to determine where your relationship is headed, it can be helpful to talk to him about it. Or, you may find it helpful to speak with a relationship expert like a therapist for guidance on navigating your relationship.

What Does A Person Want In A Woman?

Not all men want the same thing in a woman. Each person is unique which means not every man is looking for the same thing when he's falling in love. However, most men are going to want to find a woman that they have things in common with. Physical attraction also plays an important role in love for many men. This doesn't mean that all men want their partner to look a specific way though, just someone that they find attractive.

Most men are looking for the same type of thing that women are looking for. They likely want to find someone that makes them feel good and enjoy spending time with. And, finding someone that they can trust with the deepest parts of their heart is also important for most people when they are looking for a long-term relationship.

Which Part Of The Female Body Attracts Men The Most?

While attraction tends to be very important for a man falling in love, not all men are attracted to the same thing. You can find statistics that say a woman's face, smile, teeth, or eyes are things a man looks at first. But then you can also find plenty of men that will say it's their build, curves, or even shoulder blades that they'll notice first. And even if men agree that they are attracted to the same body part first doesn't mean they're all wanting it to look the same way.

How Do You Find Out If A Person Is Playing You?

There are several signs you can look for if you're wondering if a guy is falling for you or just playing you. Here are some warning signs to look for:

He hasn't taken you to meet his family. You aren't even sure if his friends and family know about you.
He's spending more time with his friends or others and less time with you.
You seem to fill the needs in his sex life but he doesn't include you in much else.
He doesn't include you in his plans for the future.

How Do You Know When You Love Someone?

It's a great sign that you love someone when you can't wait to see them and spend time with them. They consume most of your attention and even when you can see their imperfections, you're willing to stick it out with them. When you believe that your life is better because that other person is a part of it and you can't imagine doing life without them, it can be a great sign that you're in love.

How Do You Feel When You're In Love?

There isn't a right or wrong way to feel when you're in love. Many people feel that love makes life easier. Some feel that they become a better person when they have someone whom they love. Some feel more complete when in a relationship. Healthy, reciprocal love can have a way of making bad things seem not so bad and good things seem even better.

However, it's important to pay attention as love grows and deepens. Some of those initial feelings of "love" like butterflies in your stomach and struggling to think of anything but that person won't last forever. This doesn't mean that you're not in love with them anymore. It could just be that your relationship is moving to a different level and you’re past the “infatuation” or “puppy love” stage.

How Do You Differentiate Between Love And Infatuation?

Love and infatuation can feel similar at the beginning of a relationship. As healthy relationships develop and grow, infatuation turns into love. One of the undeniable signs a man is falling in love is when his plans include his partner and he's willing to accept his partner's imperfections and continue building the relationship.

Many people think they are falling out of love when the relationship is just progressing to a different level. If you're wondering if you're falling out of love or struggling to see the difference between infatuation and love in your life, you may benefit from talking with a dating relationship coach or couple’s therapist for guidance.

Why Do Guys Find It Hard To Express Their Feelings?

Men don't always know how to express their feelings. Some men feel that they need to always appear strong and tough and showing feelings, even positive ones can cause them to feel weak.

How Do You Make Someone Fall Deeply In Love With You?

If you think you've found Mr. Right and want to know he's falling in love with you, you may feel desperate to do anything you can to win his heart. If you want someone to fall in love with you, you can try to do things like spending time together, thinking up the perfect gift ideas, and being the most genuine version of yourself while encouraging him to do the same. If you are able to make him feel safe and loved with you simply by being yourself, well that’s a pretty great sign that things are on the right track and you’re setting up a healthy foundation for love! Beyond that, you cannot “make” someone fall in love with you, not truly.

How Do You Tell If A Guy Has Feelings For You?

There are subtle signs that a person is into you, and then, there are more telling signs. Sometimes, it can be hard to determine whether someone has romantic feelings for you or views you as just a friend. For example, if you have emotional talks, your opinions matter to the person, they care about your wellbeing, and they give you genuine compliments, it’s possible that it could be either a strong friendship or these could be hidden signs that what someone feels for you is something more. If you’re in a bad mood, they might run to be your knight in shining armor so that they brighten your day or spend more time with you.

Can You Tell If Someone Loves You By Their Eyes?

It is hard to understand if a guy loves you or to decipher someone’s feelings, in general, from the look in their eyes alone. Other signs could include body language, consistent effort to spend time with you, physical touch, thoughtful, genuine compliments, and actions that differ from the way he acts toward or around his other friends. If the person in question is one of your existing male friends - in other words, someone you’ve been close to for a while - you might start to notice that he treats you differently than he did before. He may also tell all his friends about you, wish to spend time one-on-one with you during his free time, give you genuine compliments, ask about future plans, and so on. If you want to know if it’s just his way of being a friend or something more romantic in nature, you can also look out for hidden signs in the way he treats you in comparison to how he treats his other friends. For example, if you are a woman, maybe he is physically affectionate with you in ways that he isn’t with other women. He may compliment you more, or in different ways. Sometimes, jealousy could also be present; if someone is slowly falling for you, or quickly falling for you, for that matter, they could be particularly interested in learning about your love life and may appear disappointed if you mention that you are interested in someone else, particularly if you’re monogamous.

If all the signs point to the possibility that he may view you as more than a friend and you feel the same way, you may decide to bring it up. If you are compatible and feel that there could be healthy, compassionate love there, know that friendships can turn into romantic partnerships. It can be hard to decipher whether or not a guy loves you based on subtle signs alone, but a conversation can provide clarity.

What Makes A Man Fall Deeply In Love With A Woman?

What will make a man fall for someone? This question is challenging to answer because everyone looks for something different in a partner. Sometimes, a person will be attracted to someone based on how they carry themselves, their interests, and their personality at large. A person might be attracted to confidence, kindness, and various other traits. They might notice small things that they find special about you, like specific mannerisms you have. Other times, a person may experience attraction toward another individual without necessarily knowing why. It’s also worthwhile to note that what someone loves about you may expand as your connection develops and they learn more about you.

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