By: Abigail Boyd
Updated October 19, 2020
Medically Reviewed By: Lauren Guilbeault
Everyone experiences love through their own personal lens, but there are certain patterns that the different genders tend to display. If you find yourself checking your phone all the time in hopes of his call or text, or waiting to see if he'll say those three little words when you're together on a romantic date, you're probably wondering if there's a way to crack what he's feeling. By keeping an eye out for signs that a man is falling in love, you can come as close as possible to reading his mind.
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These signs of falling in love are fairly universal for men and easy to spot. Before you declare your feelings for him or make plans for the future, you'll want to assess the situation and make sure you're both on the same page. No one wants to come off as needy or desperate, especially if you haven't been in the relationship for very long. Looking for signs that your love interest is falling in love with you can help you determine where your relationship is headed.
What Does Love Feel Like for a Man?
Love goes beyond surface attraction to a deeper level. Love can make anyone feel vulnerable, especially if the person is not used to being in touch with their emotions. Many men are raised to toughen up and ignore their emotions, which can cause them to suppress their feelings of love. As such, falling in love can sometimes make them uncomfortable. Even if a man is comfortable with his emotions, the intensity of love can take him by surprise.
Interestingly, research has suggested that men actually fall in love faster and express that love earlier than women do. That's despite the myth that women are quicker to fall in love.
When a man experiences love, it can affect him deeply. He wants to care for and protect the person he loves and make them happy, and these goals tend to rise above many of the other priorities in their lives. Love can hijack a guy's mind and lead him by his heart instead of by his head. Real, reciprocated love drives a man to become the best version of himself.
Things Girls Do That Guys Love
Many things that girls do that make the guys in their lives adore them are unintentional and you may not even realize you're doing them until you really think about it. Making you genuinely laugh can feel like an accomplishment to a guy who cares about you. Little habits, like playing with your hair or biting your lip, can not only be endearing and sexy. Certain quirks about you that are unique to you can also warm his heart.
How Does a Man Express His Love? Signs A Man is Falling in Love
It may sound stereotypical or old-fashioned, but some men tend to show their love differently than some women. Men show you how they feel by the actions they perform. Of course, some men still put their feelings into words. But this is usually harder for them than it is for women, due to the way that men are raised. When you're not in touch with your emotions, expressing them through words can be difficult. Actions feel safer and more concrete.
How Do Signs of an Insecure Man in Love Differ?
Men, just like women, can feel insecure and vulnerable in a relationship when feelings are involved. This is usually due to past experiences of rejection or betrayal, for example, if your ex has been cheated on. Whether or not you know your man's dating history, these events can shape their outlook on love and their willingness to show these feelings.
This insecurity can display in different ways. Maybe he texts you more often than you're used to. Or maybe he gets jealous easily. Insecurity can rarely be a deal breaker if it leads to negative patterns. If the man you're interested in becomes highly critical of you and your behavior, that's a major red flag that he's not ready to be in a relationship.
Signs a Man is Falling in Love with You
"Is he falling in love with me?" If you're asking yourself this question, there are key behaviors that are common when guys fall in love. Signs of a guy having intense feelings are easy to spot when you know what to look for. Of course, eventually you need to have the courage to have a real discussion with him. For now, these signs can help you answer the question "is he falling in love with me?"
He Maintains Eye Contact
Eye contact of a man in love is different from that of a man who is merely interested. If a man is in love with you, he tends to hold eye contact longer. Since eye contact between two people who are in love can be intense, some men may feel vulnerable when caught in this gaze. You may catch him looking at you longingly out of the corner of your eye and looking away momentarily when you catch him.
He Tries to Make You Happy
One of the most common signs a man is falling in love with a woman is if he makes an effort to bring her as much happiness as possible. If he goes out of his way to put a smile on your face or make you laugh, that's a clear sign that he's falling for you. As previously mentioned, a man will display the way that he feels through what he does. For example, he may go out of his way to find the perfect gift ideas to get you a present for no reason. If he's concerned with making you happy, then you can be confident that you mean a lot to him.
He Wants to Spend Time with You
If a guy gets to the point where he initiates spending more time together that is a definite sign that he has feelings for you. While he may just be experiencing a strong attraction and interest in you, if this persists over time, you can be assured that he truly cares. Of course, it's not good for either of you to drop everything else just to spend time together. It's much healthier to retain your own social circles and hobbies. However, if he makes time for you in his life, even working conflicting schedules, it means you matter to him.
He's Thinking About You
While your guy doesn't have a window on the side of their head to let you see what they're thinking (even if you wish they did), there are ways to know that he's frequently thinking about you. When a man is in love with you, you'll constantly be popping into his mind. He may send you random texts throughout the day to see what you're doing or he may surprise you with a visit.
He's Physically Affectionate in Public
We're not talking moves that have a sexual connotation. It's when he reaches his hand out to hold yours or puts his arm around you. These are protective gestures that declare that you two are together. If you notice he starts kissing your head or cheek, giving you hugs, or snuggling you closer, those are all clear signs that he's got feelings for you that go beyond desire. And when not in public, he isn't afraid to make it obvious on social media that he's with you. He'll include you in his posts or interact with yours.
He Does Things for You
A guy who goes out of his way to do things for you-such as picking up your favorite snacks at the store without you asking or replacing your hard drive when it fails-is definitely showing that he cares. Even if he just has a naturally giving personality, these actions show that you're important to him and he wants to please you. This can particularly stand out if he starts doing things for you more often-these are non-verbal signs of falling in love. Many men have an instinctual need to do what they can to make things better for those they care about, just like women do.
He Listens to You
Most of us have had the experience of talking to someone who is only pretending to listen. Unfortunately, this is common if a guy is only acting interested in getting physical with you. On the other hand, if your guy really takes the time to listen to what you have to say, that means that you're important to him. In combination with other signs listed here, his willingness to listen could be a strong indicator that he has feelings for you that go deeper than attraction.
How Therapy Can Help
A licensed relationship therapist can help you figure out if he is showing signs that he's falling in love; more importantly, a therapist can help you build a strong and healthy relationship. Dating can also stir up many feelings of insecurity and anxiety from our past. While we may have the tendency to try to avoid these feelings, ignoring them almost never works. In fact, it only makes these negative thoughts grow more powerful. These feelings can undermine our ability to have a healthy, mutually supportive relationship, especially if we're looking for validation from our partner.
A therapist can help us work through emotional issues from our past to develop healthy coping and communication skills. These skills allow us to have more successful relationships. Reach out to BetterHelp to access online therapy from a licensed counselor that fits your busy schedule.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ’s)
How do you tell if a man is falling in love with you?
Not every man is the same and there might not be any undeniable signs a man is falling in love unless he tells you, but there are some signs a man is falling in love that you can watch for. For example, you can watch his body language. He's likely to turn his body towards you when in conversation and to make eye contact with you. He may pay attention to you more than others that are around. He's also likely to try spending time with you more than with others when he's falling in love.
You may find that he's willing to do things with you that he wouldn't do otherwise such as watching a "chick flick". He shows interest in things that you're interested in and makes sacrifices to spend more time with you. His friends and family may start to notice a change in his behavior and meeting the parents may take place.
What happens to a man when he falls in love?
When men fall in love, his priorities may begin to shift. He begins paying attention to things in a different way as he begins to have deeper feelings for his partner. He begins to care more about what his partner needs and wants above what he wants. He starts to think about the future as a couple instead of just as his own. His long-term plans may begin to adapt to include the other person.
It's also believed that when he's falling in love, he experiences less physical pain.
How quickly do men fall in love?
When it comes to how quickly it happens, there's a good chance that he's falling in love faster than you are. It's even believed that men are more likely to fall in love at first sight compared to women. However, it's important to remember that not all men are the same. Sometimes a man falling in love may not realize that it's happening. On the other hand, a man may realize he's falling in love immediately because he's purposefully looking for this type of relationship.
How does a man feel when he is in love?
When in love, a man can feel many different ways. He may notice that his attention and goals start to shift. One such example would be that he's interested in you and building a relationship and not just thinking about his sex life. He may also feel more of a pressure to succeed, provide for, or protect his partner.
When he's falling in love, everything is likely to become about her. He can't stop thinking about her and would rather be spending time with her than doing anything else.
He may feel a scared about the relationship and where it's headed or he might just have a comfortable feeling about the entire thing. The way that a man feels when he's in love or when he's falling in love is going to vary based on his personality and specific life situation. For example, someone struggling with a mental health challenge like anxiety or depression may feel different during this time than someone else.
How do you tell if a guy is confused about his feelings for you?
If a man is confused and not quite sure if he's falling for you or not, you may find that you're getting mixed signals from him. He may seem really interested one day and then act differently the next time you see him. He may act like you're in a relationship when he's with you but then not want to go public with it by sharing on social media or with friends and family.
You may also notice that he seems jealous of attention that you give to other guys but also doesn't seem to attempt to be exclusive with you either. Overall, if a guy is confused about his feelings and whether he's falling for you or not, he most likely going to leave you feeling confused about where you stand.
What makes a man fall deeply in love with a woman?
When he's falling for you, there are many things that can contribute to it. For many men, it involves being physically attracted to the woman. But if he's in love, it's not just about the physical attraction. Men like to have things in common with their partner. Most men want to enjoy spending time with the woman he's in love with.
Trust and respect are also important factors in love. If he's falling deeply in love, it's most likely because he thinks that he's found the complete package.
How do you know if a guy loves you but is scared?
Even if he's scared, there are some signs a man is falling in love with you that you can watch for. For example, paying attention to his body language can be a great sign. You may notice that he's staring your way a lot and holds eye contact with you. You may also notice that he blushes easily around you or appears nervous.
You may also hear that he's been talking about you to the important people in his life like family or close friends. Or, you may notice that he makes it a goal to interact with all of your social media posts. There may be lots of little signs like this that show he's falling for you. But if you aren't paying attention and looking for them, you may not notice.
If you're struggling to determine if he's in love with you or how to determine where your relationship is headed, it can be helpful to talk to him about it. Or, you may find it helpful to speak with a relationship expert like a therapist for guidance on navigating your relationship.
What a man wants in a woman?
Not all men want the same thing in a woman. Each person is unique which means not every man is looking for the same thing when he's falling in love. However, most men are going to want to find a woman that they have things in common with. Physical attraction also plays an important role in love for many men. This doesn't mean that all men want their partner to look a specific way though, just someone that they find attractive.
Most men are looking for the same type of thing that women are looking for. They likely want to find someone that makes them feel good and that they enjoy spending time with. And, finding someone that they can trust with the deepest parts of their heart is also important for most people when they are looking for a long-term relationship.
Which part of female body attracts the most?
While attraction tends to be very important for a man falling in love, not all men are attracted to the same thing. You can find statistics that say a woman's face, smile, teeth or eyes are things a man looks at first. But then you can also find plenty of men that will say it's their build, curves, or even shoulder blades that they' notice first. And even if men agree that they are attracted to the same body part first doesn't mean they're all wanting it to look the same way.
How do you tell if a guy is playing you?
There are several signs you can look for if you're wondering if a guy is falling for you compared to playing you. Here are some warning signs to look for:
- He doesn’t share your relationship on social media and you aren't included in his posts.
- He hasn't taken you to meet his family. In fact, you aren't even sure if his friends and family know about you.
- He's spending more time with his friends or others and less time with you.
- You seem to fill the needs in his sex life but he doesn't include you in much else.
- He doesn't include you in his plans for the future.
- How do you know when you love someone?
It's a great sign that you love someone when you can't wait to see them and spend time with them. They consume most of your attention and even when you can see their imperfections, you're willing to stick it out with them. When you believe that your life is better because that other person is a part of it and you can't imagine doing life without them, it can be a great sign that you're in love.
- How do you feel when you're in love?
There isn't a right or wrong way to feel when you're in love. Many people feel that love makes life easier. Some feel that they become a better person when they have someone that they love. Some feel more complete when in a relationship. Love can have a way of making bad things seem not so bad and good things seem even better.
However, it's important to pay attention as love grows and deepens. Some of those initial feelings of "love" like butterflies in your stomach and struggling to think of anything but that person won't last forever. This doesn't mean that you're not in love with them anymore. It could just be that your relationship is moving to a different level.
- How do you differentiate between love and infatuation?
Love and infatuation can feel similar in the beginning of a relationship. As healthy relationships develop and grow, infatuation turns into love. One of the undeniable signs a man is falling in love is when his future plans include his partner and he's willing to accept his partner's imperfections and continue building the relationship.
Many people think they are falling out of love when the relationship is actually just progressing to a different level. If you're wondering if you're falling out of love or struggling to see the difference between infatuation and love in your life, you may benefit from talking with a dating relationship coach for guidance.
- Why do guys find it hard to express their feelings?
Men don't always know how to express their feelings. It could be because he was taught to see sharing feelings as weak and doesn't want to let others see his emotional fragility. Some men feel that they need to always appear strong and tough and showing feelings, even positive ones, can cause them to feel weak. He may have had people in his life that gave him a hard time with sharing his feelings in the past.
There are also some mental health challenges that can make it difficult for people to share their emotions.
If your struggling with sharing your feelings or feel that this is missing in your relationship, talking with a relationship coach may be helpful.
- How do you make someone fall deeply in love with you?
If you think you've found Mr. Right and want to know he's falling in love with you, you may feel desperate to do anything you can to win his heart. If you want someone to fall in love with you, you can try to do things like spending time together, thinking up the perfect gift ideas, and trying to be exactly what you think that he wants, but that's not the best way to go about it.
Therapy Is Personal
Therapy is a personal experience, and not everyone will go into it seeking the same things. But, keeping these nine things in mind can ensure that you will get the most out of online therapy, regardless of what your specific goals are.
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