Everyone experiences love through their own personal lens, but there are certain patterns that the different genders tend to display. If you find yourself checking your phone all the time in hopes of his call or text, or waiting to see if he'll say those three little words when you're together on a romantic date, you're probably wondering if there's a way to crack what he's feeling. By keeping an eye out for signs that a man is falling in love, you can come as close as possible to reading his mind.
These signs of falling in love are fairly universal for men and easy to spot. Before you declare your feelings for him or make plans for the future, you'll want to assess the situation and make sure you're both on the same page. No one wants to come off as needy or desperate, especially if you haven't been in the relationship for very long. Looking for signs that your love interest is falling in love with you can help you determine where your relationship is headed.
What Does Love Feel Like for a Man?
Love goes beyond surface attraction to a deeper level. Love can make anyone feel vulnerable, especially if the person is not used to being in touch with their emotions. Many men are raised to toughen up and ignore their emotions, which can cause them to suppress their feelings of love. As such, falling in love can sometimes make them uncomfortable. Even if a man is comfortable with his emotions, the intensity of love can take him by surprise.
Interestingly, research has suggested that men actually fall in love faster and express that love earlier than women do. That's despite the myth that women are quicker to fall in love.
When a man experiences love, it can affect him deeply. He wants to care for and protect the person he loves and make them happy, and these goals tend to rise above many of the other priorities in their lives. Love can hijack a guy's mind and lead him by his heart instead of by his head. Real, reciprocated love drives a man to become the best version of himself.
Things Girls Do That Guys Love
Many things that girls do that make the guys in their lives adore them are unintentional and you may not even realize you're doing them until you really think about it. Making you genuinely laugh can feel like an accomplishment to a guy who cares about you. Little habits, like playing with your hair or biting your lip, can not only be endearing and sexy. Certain quirks about you that are unique to you can also warm his heart.
How Does a Man Express His Love? Signs A Man is Falling in Love
It may sound stereotypical or old-fashioned, but some men tend to show their love differently than some women. Men show you how they feel by the actions they perform. Of course, some men still put their feelings into words. But this is usually harder for them than it is for women, due to the way that men are raised. When you're not in touch with your emotions, expressing them through words can be difficult. Actions feel safer and more concrete.
How Do Signs of an Insecure Man in Love Differ?
Men, just like women, can feel insecure and vulnerable in a relationship when feelings are involved. This is usually due to past experiences of rejection or betrayal, for example, if your ex has been cheated on. Whether or not you know your man's dating history, these events can shape their outlook on love and their willingness to show these feelings.
This insecurity can display in different ways. Maybe he texts you more often than you're used to. Or maybe he gets jealous easily. Insecurity can rarely be a deal breaker if it leads to negative patterns. If the man you're interested in becomes highly critical of you and your behavior, that's a major red flag that he's not ready to be in a relationship.
Signs a Man is Falling in Love with You
"Is he falling in love with me?" If you're asking yourself this question, there are key behaviors that are common when guys fall in love. Signs of a guy having intense feelings are easy to spot when you know what to look for. Of course, eventually you need to have the courage to have a real discussion with him. For now, these signs can help you answer the question "is he falling in love with me?"
He Maintains Eye Contact
Eye contact of a man in love is different from that of a man who is merely interested. If a man is in love with you, he tends to hold eye contact longer. Since eye contact between two people who are in love can be intense, some men may feel vulnerable when caught in this gaze. You may catch him looking at you longingly out of the corner of your eye and looking away momentarily when you catch him.
He Tries to Make You Happy
One of the most common signs a man is falling in love with a woman is if he makes an effort to bring her as much happiness as possible. If he goes out of his way to put a smile on your face or make you laugh, that's a clear sign that he's falling for you. As previously mentioned, a man will display the way that he feels through what he does. For example, he may go out of his way to find the perfect gift ideas to get you a present for no reason. If he's concerned with making you happy, then you can be confident that you mean a lot to him.
He Wants to Spend Time with You
If a guy gets to the point where he initiates spending more time together that is a definite sign that he has feelings for you. While he may just be experiencing a strong attraction and interest in you, if this persists over time, you can be assured that he truly cares. Of course, it's not good for either of you to drop everything else just to spend time together. It's much healthier to retain your own social circles and hobbies. However, if he makes time for you in his life, even working conflicting schedules, it means you matter to him.
He's Thinking About You
While your guy doesn't have a window on the side of their head to let you see what they're thinking (even if you wish they did), there are ways to know that he's frequently thinking about you. When a man is in love with you, you'll constantly be popping into his mind. He may send you random texts throughout the day to see what you're doing or he may surprise you with a visit.
He's Physically Affectionate in Public
We're not talking moves that have a sexual connotation. It's when he reaches his hand out to hold yours or puts his arm around you. These are protective gestures that declare that you two are together. If you notice he starts kissing your head or cheek, giving you hugs, or snuggling you closer, those are all clear signs that he's got feelings for you that go beyond desire. And when not in public, he isn't afraid to make it obvious on social media that he's with you. He'll include you in his posts or interact with yours.
He Does Things for You
A guy who goes out of his way to do things for you-such as picking up your favorite snacks at the store without you asking or replacing your hard drive when it fails-is definitely showing that he cares. Even if he just has a naturally giving personality, these actions show that you're important to him and he wants to please you. This can particularly stand out if he starts doing things for you more often-these are non-verbal signs of falling in love. Many men have an instinctual need to do what they can to make things better for those they care about, just like women do.
He Listens to You
Most of us have had the experience of talking to someone who is only pretending to listen. Unfortunately, this is common if a guy is only acting interested in getting physical with you. On the other hand, if your guy really takes the time to listen to what you have to say, that means that you're important to him. In combination with other signs listed here, his willingness to listen could be a strong indicator that he has feelings for you that go deeper than attraction.
How Therapy Can Help
A licensed relationship therapist can help you figure out if he is showing signs that he's falling in love; more importantly, a therapist can help you build a strong and healthy relationship. Dating can also stir up many feelings of insecurity and anxiety from our past. While we may have the tendency to try to avoid these feelings, ignoring them almost never works. In fact, it only makes these negative thoughts grow more powerful. These feelings can undermine our ability to have a healthy, mutually supportive relationship, especially if we're looking for validation from our partner.
A therapist can help us work through emotional issues from our past to develop healthy coping and communication skills. These skills allow us to have more successful relationships. Reach out to BetterHelp to access online therapy from a licensed counselor that fits your busy schedule.