What To Do When You’re Feeling Like A Failure
Feeling like a failure is a common problem. Nearly everyone feels that way at one time or another. However, when the feeling lasts and lasts, you need to work a little harder to banish it. Here are a few tips to help you regain your confidence and move forward.
List Your Successes
Often, people get into the habit of focusing on their failures. It makes sense to a certain degree, because by paying attention to things that didn't go well, you can determine what went wrong. You can make a new plan to do better next time.
On the other hand, if you focus too much on your failures without acknowledging when you've succeeded, you can end up feeling incompetent. When you feel that way, make a list of your successes. Creating that list will help you realize how distorted your thinking has become.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Do you judge yourself as a failure because you haven't accomplished what others had? If so, you need to step back and remind yourself that you are a unique individual with your own talents and skills to share with the world. You might not have it in you to do what others do. By the same token, others might not be able to do what you're capable of doing.
Take Care of Your Physical Needs
Don't discount your need for a healthy diet, a good night's sleep, and adequate exercise. When you don't take care of your physical needs, everything can begin to look dismal. By taking care of yourself, you can feel better quickly. Your thoughts will naturally turn to the positive.
Watch for Signs of Depression
The feeling of being a failure can be one signal that your mood is dipping towards depression. So, it's imperative that you pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and physical condition. If you notice any of these signs of depression, see a therapist immediately:
- Always feeling sad or empty
- Feeling tired
- Feeling guilty
- Insomnia or sleeping too much
- No appetite or overeating
- Loss of interest in the things that usually make you happy
- Feeling irritable or restless
- Trouble concentrating
- Difficulty making decisions
- Thinking about suicide
Talk to a Counselor About Feeling Like a Failure
Even if you aren't clinically depressed, talking to a counselor about your feelings can help you overcome them. Only when you stop experiencing that emotionally painful feeling can you begin to enjoy your life. As a bonus, you can build off your past successes to accomplish even more than you have in the past. Counselors are available to talk to you right now at BetterHelp.