What To Expect From Teen Counseling & Therapy

Medically reviewed by April Justice, LICSW
Updated September 19, 2023by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Being a teenager can come with a unique set of challenges.

Many of them may experience stress and feel pressured during adolescence by heavy academic workloads, discovering their identity, or keeping up with social life.

Some teenagers may experience bullying or peer pressure, and others may question their gender or sexual identity as they navigate relationships for the first time. Other adolescents might be diagnosed with a condition or mental health challenges during the teenage years with distressing symptoms. Counseling often seeks to help these individuals discover their place in the world and learn more about themselves.

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Why Should I Consider Counseling For My Child?

Young adults often go through many significant physical, emotional, and physiological changes, which can feel challenging to cope with. Their brains are in the process of becoming fully formed, so they may struggle with decision-making, time management, and understanding their emotions. It is vital to know the adolescent age range to understand better their physical and biological experiences.

Hormonal and bodily changes occur during the three distinct phases in the adolescent age range that could feel unfamiliar or overwhelming. With many internal and external changes from childhood, added stressors might cause young people to feel overwhelmed. Additionally, young people often utilize social media. Social media has been linked to social comparison and lowered self-esteem in young people. 

If your child reaches a point where they feel difficulty handling school, social, or family stress, therapy may help them develop some useful coping skills. Despite this, many young people do not know that therapy is an option or might have heard mental health myths at school that deter them from wanting to try. 

Parents may consider teen counseling after they notice their children struggling with academics, self-esteem, or behavioral issues. Dropping grades or a significant precipitating event may also signify that your child could benefit from therapy.  

Before discussing the subject of therapy with your child, consider allowing them to have a voice in the conversation. They might feel defensive or confused when you bring it up. Ask them how they'd feel speaking to a professional and if they want to help choose a therapist. You might also consider asking them when they'd feel most comfortable attending therapy and how often they want to go. Chronic conditions, disordered eating, and other behaviors that could place them in immediate danger require careful assessment from trained therapists. It is especially important to be aware of suicidal thoughts, self harm, and other potentially dangerous behaviors. Consequently, it is necessary to identify the individual needs of each individual in order to provide them with the most supportive therapy.

Although you may have the "final word", including your child in the conversation could make the prospect of therapy sound more comforting to them. You can also explain the process and how teen counseling could benefit them. If you see a therapist yourself, explain how therapy benefits you and lead by example.

Expectations For Parents

As a parent, knowing what to expect from teen counseling can be beneficial. The process may look slightly different from adult therapy. 

Young People May Receive Benefits From Therapy

You might not be invited to your child's first session with their therapist. Parents often act as their child's representatives regarding medical decision-making. Although clauses may not apply to minors in therapy, a therapist might ask a parent to agree to specific contracts before treating their child. In some cases, a therapist may not offer information to you if they believe it could harm the minor. A therapist's job is to build a strong therapeutic relationship with their adolescent patient, and to help them become independent by setting goals and measuring progress. One's age is an important factor in determining the type of therapy they receive. It is also important to keep in mind that progress will be slow, and they may need more than a few sessions before seeing positive changes.

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Understanding The Issue At It's Core

The type of therapy used may depend on the precipitating problem. If you want your child to attend therapy because they're struggling academically, the counselor may find underlying causes or other concerns to work through first. Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is a type of talk therapy that helps individuals learn skills to cope with stress, manage emotions, and improve communication. It is sometimes used to treat those with eating disorders or other mental health challenges.

Often, establishing rapport and trust is essential in therapy. After the initial intake session (with or without the parents), the therapist may spend the next session getting to know them. The therapist could ask questions about their likes and interests, as well as their families.

The Therapist May Collaborate With You

As the parent, the therapist may speak to you about some of the concerns brought up in therapy, especially those related to severe mental health conditions, depending on their policies. As you collaborate with the therapist, you may choose to have open discussions with your child and improve dynamics at home. This can be a great way to measure progress, as you are the first people to notice changes in behavior and attitude. Some therapists may run a therapy session for you and your teenager in two separate session environments so you both can work on moving forward together.

Try to respect their aloofness by not openly discussing their information with them without consent. If you want to learn more, ask your teen if they're open to talking to you about what they learned in the session, communication is vital in helping them.

How To Find A Counselor For Your Teen

Where to find teen counseling near me?  When looking for licensed therapists, you might meet with your teen's primary care physician or pediatrician and discuss a potential referral to a psychologist in your area that accepts your child's insurance plan. You might also consider several types of mental health professionals or specialists, including: 

  • Counselors
  • Social workers
  • Psychiatrists
  • Psychologists
  • Neuropsychologists
  • Behavioral experts
  • Online counselors 
  • School counselors 

Each option may have a different cost, specialty, or expertise level. You can start your search online and call the professionals that stand out to you. 

How To Prepare Your Child

When you first talk to your child about therapy, they may feel resistant. It can be normal to resist what they're uncomfortable with. You might consider the following techniques to help them become open to the idea of teen counseling.

Let Them Lead

Most people struggle when decisions are made for them without their input. Before telling them to start therapy, provide them with information about the therapy process and treatment goals and ask them if they think therapy sessions could benefit them.

Let them know that you support them, no matter what. If they decide to try therapy themselves, they may be more likely to approach it with an open mind.

Include Them In The Process

As your child moves towards young adulthood, consider allowing them to help you choose a therapist and let them decide when to schedule their first session. Many therapists also offer family therapy and group therapy sessions, which can include both the teen and other families in attendance. 

You might also let them see the research behind why you think mental health services are valuable choices. If they feel like you're a team, they may be more likely to follow through with your suggestion.

Going To Counseling As A Parent 

Knowing how to react when your child has trouble coping or adjusting to life as they transition to adulthood can be challenging. If this is the case for you, there are many ways to seek help, including therapist-assisted parenting teenagers tips.

A professional counselor may teach you more about your child's mental health condition and potentially help you through any resultant mental health issues you may be experiencing. Caring for your mental health may teach healthy coping strategies to your child and reduce stigmas around seeking mental health support. Studies show that online therapy programs can help parents learn strategies for parenting teenage girls and boys who are experiencing complicated emotions related to mental health issues.  One study published in Internet Interventions—a peer-reviewed scientific journal—found that an online parenting platform was effective in helping parents recognize symptoms of depression and anxiety in their teens. This recognition lets the parents know when to step in and seek help for their children.  

The report posits that therapist-assisted interventions can help parents motivate their children to continue treatment and that parents can be a valuable support team for their children while receiving mental health treatment. This form of treatment utilizes therapist-assisted videoconferencing and interactive educational resources to reinforce critical topics or concepts.

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A qualified counselor can help you better guide your child when experiencing complicated emotions. If you're ready to try online counseling, consider a platform like BetterHelp for those over 18, which offers various online therapy methods and counselor options. If you hope to sign your child up for online counseling, TeenCounseling is available to those ages 13-19. 

Takeaway

Can a minor sign of trouble, such as slipping grades or pushing parents away mean that your child needs mental health support? Knowing where to start looking for help can be difficult. By encouraging your child to visit a counselor specializing in young adults, you may be able to get them the support they need to handle teenage life.  

If you're facing your challenges related to your teenager's struggles, therapy is also available for parents. Consider reaching out online or in your area to get started.

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