Can I really overcome retroactive jealous ocd?

The short answer is yes, of course, you can overcome retroactive jealousy. The more complicated answer is that it will take time, effort, and reflection on your part. Relationship obsessive-compulsive disorder (ROCD) is a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Obsessive-compulsive disorder is an anxiety disorder, which is a broad category of treatable disorders. Untreated anxiety disorders such as OCD can impact relationships with others and take a toll on the individual decreasing one's quality of life. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is a recommended therapeutic modality when working with a therapist for an anxiety disorder. Most mental health clinicians have the education and training to treat anxiety disorders but some specialize in working with anxiety disorders. Often there is a lot of fear and insecurity underneath the manifestation of any obsessive-compulsive behavior. This will need to be explored with a trusted professional who can help you uncover what may be driving some of the jealousy and feelings of insecurity that are negatively affecting the ability to feel safe in one's current relationship with another. Trauma and childhood abuse can be contributing factors that can impact the emotional and psychological health of adult relationships. Reconciling with the idea that people have had past lives before a current relationship and that there is nothing that anyone can do to change what has already happened in the past. The jealousy and rage that can emerge when one considers one's partner's past may be an indicator of an abusive and controlling nature in you. Abuse and control are serious issues that impact relationships in various and hurtful ways for both parties. Professional help is recommended. Love and loving someone is very strong emotions that can escalate feelings of need and fear of loss. These feelings can sweep over everything and drive one into actions that are overbearing and extreme. It can be very confusing for both because, on one hand, a person may feel that because my partner loves me so much he or she is a sense has a right to feel jealous yet in actuality love that is mixed with extreme expressions of jealousy are often controlling relationships that indicate emotional immaturity and insecurity. Yes, you can overcome retroactive jealousy, but you will have to work very hard and be willing to look deep within yourself as a person to gain insight as to why you might be feeling insecure in your current relationship. Trauma treatments such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) may be an option for helping with irrational thoughts and lessening the impact of images that are difficult to stop thinking about. I sincerely hope that you can learn from this, grow as a university student, and relax into accepting what you cannot control. This will allow you to offer more compassion toward yourself and others and enjoy the present situation without obsessing over what was or what will or will not happen. Based on what you wrote, I imagine that this is impacting your concentration and ability to focus on your studies and other responsibilities as well as how you are being in the relationship with the person you love. You do not want to smother her or you could push her away. Everything will work out the way that it is meant to work out if you could step back a little, let go, and breathe - yes, literally breathe. Practice some deep breathing and mindfulness-based approaches such as meditation and yoga for example as ways to reduce the anxiety that you are feeling around this issue. As you become more confident about who you are as an adult whether you are in this current relationship or not you will begin to overcome some of the barriers within yourself that may very well be fueling your anxiety. I think it would be important for you to work with a therapist to explore any underlying issues from your past and from your childhood or adolescent years that could be contributing to worry, fear, and insecurity on your part. When one begins to gain insight as to what might be triggering feelings of jealousy, anger, fear, or any other negative emotion for example one can grow in ways that will be beneficial overall. I wish you well as you take this big first step toward understanding yourself better! It takes motivation, commitment, and courage to ask hard questions and to ask for help. Take care of yourself and treat your partner whom you say you love with respect and kindness and that will go a long way in building a strong relationship. Learn to trust the people whom you can trust as long as they have given you no reason to distrust them. Work on calming your own jealousy feelings with positive self-talk and rational, reasonable, and logical thoughts. Stay in the present. There is no reason to dredge up what anyone has done in the past. The past is the past. Learn from it. When we tell others about who we are and we tell our stories from the past to others because we want them to know us better we are continually learning and making meaning of our experiences, but remember that we are living in today and the opportunity for change and growth are in today not yesterday. Tell yourself that you will not obsess over the past actions of your partner before the two of you were together. Use self-talk to tell yourself that this is not helpful. Tell yourself that if you continue to behave this way you will only drive the person you love away. Take a breath, enjoy the feeling of loving someone in a healthy manner, and relish being young (I am assuming) and in love. At any age or stage of life love is a sweet gift so do not spoil or tarnish the love you feel with jealousy feelings and controlling or manipulative behavior. Get the help you need so that you can live your best life. Study hard!