Why am I so stressed at 29 years old? And I how can I stop worrying about every single thing?

I feel like I have the mind of an older person sometimes, because I find it hard to have fun and just enjoy life. Everything is so serious and I always think the worst is going to happen and I'm very negative. I have really bad anxiety and some things can be such a struggle I have to hype myself up to do them, I don't know why I am like this, it's exhausting and I don't want to waste my life. I overthink nearly everything and it holds me back and stops me from doing things.
Asked by Pag

Hi Pag,

First off you should be proud for reaching out. I am so sorry that you are feeling as if you're being negative. Anxiety can be a very tricky thing and can be so different for everybody. What does anxiety look like to you? What do you do when you are feeling anxious?

When we are feeling anxious it could be important to explore the why behind it all. How long have you had anxiety? When you first started having anxiety was there something that triggered it? How old were you before the anxiety started? It is normal for people to be worried and concerned about things in our life but when it is excessive worry is when it can turn to an issue for you. At the same time that does not necessarily mean you have a mind of an older person. It could be just some changes going on right now in your life.

This is your chance to really explore yourself and see what you truly like and what you think could be fun for you. What did you like to do before you became anxious? What kind of fun things did you enjoy before? 

Along with the anxiety it would be important for you to know your triggers. If you know your triggers you can cope more easy. Also with your triggers what coping skills do you utilize? Have you looked into these things before? Once you can help your anxiety and work on it, you can focus more on yourself and what you think could be fun for you. 

When you have anxiety it is important to dig deep into those thoughts and maybe even write them out. Write out your anxious thought and then write out the multiple outcomes that can happen from the thing that is making you anxious. When you're anxious a lot of the times you are not able to focus on yourself and do the things you need to do to take care of yourself. Practicing self care could be helpful for you. What are things you do to take care of yourself, your body and your mind?