After therapy

Hi to you, as well!

Hmmm...

I would need to know who you would like to be before I were able to answer that question...

...Additionally, it seems you view the concept of who you are as being fixed or stagnant.

If your experience of therapy or your perception of therapy is that you're to become someone or something other than your most balanced and complete self (as that concept of "self" develops through time), then you've encountered the wrong therapist.

Humans are complex creatures with a plethora of complex influences upon who they're growing into as individuals at any given point throughout the lifespan. Since our growth into "who we are" isn't ever really *finished,* it's a process that is constantly in flux.

As such, there may be times when we feel as though we're expressing our highest individual potential as a consistent (i.e., on a day-to-day basis) mode of being, and other times when we feel there's an obstacle in our way (a traumatic event, everyday human insecurities, self-doubts, lack of self-compassion/self-judgment, excess concern about others' opinions, etc.).

You are not the same "you" you were ten years ago.

Sometimes, we're able to get ourselves through those moments where we feel a bit "off-track", while other times our ability to transcend the obstacle is limited by our own equally limited perspective...and in those instances, it can be helpful to get an objective viewpoint from a therapist so as to broaden one's horizons and re-open that pathway to living our highest individual potential again.

That being said, it's a therapist's job to essentially enter into the client's world, learn about their life experiences and perceptions, as well as to gain an understanding of the client's hopes, dreams, fears and apprehensions with the sole purpose of learning who the client is, and to assist them in becoming *more* of who they are, minus anything that's been holding them back from realizing their unique individual potential.

In conclusion, the process of therapy is very much individualized to the specific client and their wants and needs for their ever-evolving life. In short, if it's not troubling to the client and where they'd like to be in life at a given point, then it shouldn't be the subject of therapy.