How do you know if you truly healed from your family trauma?

Hello, 

Thank you for reaching out to BetterHelp.  I'm sorry to hear that you've experienced childhood trauma. It sounds like you're on the right track with your healing journey. Please know that healing is a process and that unlearning and relearning do not proceed in a linear fashion. You will experience steps forward and step backwards as you embrace the journey of healing. This is normal and completely expected. 
Healing is not a one- size-fits-all process. When you start to understand your trauma, and how it affects you, you can start implementing change-but not before then. Healing trauma starts with understanding it and the vast array of emotions that can come along with it.

Please continue to work on self-love and learn to  recognize, label, and dismantle triggers. You will need to learn the true meaning of acceptance and letting go. All acceptance begins with self-knowledge. Accept your emotions and where you are in the moment. If you're feeling sad or low or in pain, take a step back and get to the root of those problems and where they come from. I recommend sitting in a quiet space and allowing yourself to be physically in your body in the present, no matter how painful that might be.

Learning how to accept our trauma is an uphill battle that can only get better if we get comfortable with it. Just because you accept something, doesn't mean that you support it. We tend to fight off acceptance because it feels a bit like " giving in". It's important to be clear with yourself that you're not endorsing something by accepting it, you're simply saying " This happened. Let's move on". It's a healthy way of gaining some of our power back over the hurt of the past. When you are able to see yourself wholly and with clarity and are using healthy techniques to manage your emotions, you are on the right journey for healing. 

Healing is a long and slow process. Remember to be your own cheerleader and to practice self-compassion when you revert to old habits. 

I wish you all the best.