How to find motivation in a place that doesn't belong you?

I am feeling stuck in the city where I am living. I've been here for 3 years, and energies are not flowing like in other places. Here I have friends, the woman I love but my career is not moving and it's just a procrastination of everything I do.
I don't have the motivation to accomplish anything which could be because I don't like this city. I don't feel the nature I don't feel good... that's why I pass mostly of the time at home, but that's not myself! I feel the energy of the places and here there is not a good one for me.
I am surrounded by amazing people, I am grateful of that of course but still, a part of me feels really alone in this city.
Asked by Nico
Answered
01/26/2023

At times our lives feel like a roller coaster- we have ups, downs, sharp turns, and lull moments. This usually occurs due to the unpredictability of life. When we feel unmotivated or not connected to our environment, we have to take a closer look at what could be the cause of this.

One aspect that may be impacting us is the mindset that we are stuck. Telling ourselves we are stuck is a block that we put up when reality is that it is just a thought. Our thought of being stuck can block our creativity, motivation, energy, etc. This is because we are putting the energy out that something is not as we want it. If we shift our mindset to being more positive, open, and creative then that will move the block and allow us to get back motivation and creativity. Yes, environment can assist with this block due to not enjoying the environment we are in.

When we are in an environment, we would not normally choose due to supporting family or loved ones this can cause us to not enjoy the place we are living. By acknowledging that this may not be where we want to be in our lives or not somewhere that reflects who we are how we perceive it can make all the difference. We cannot always control certain aspects or situations; however, we have a choice to how we perceive it as well as react to it. Shifting perspective to seeing both the positive, negative, and reason to why we are where we are currently can allow us to reconnect back into the situation. When our why is due to our loved ones it can sometimes assist us with recognizing that this may not be our choice however, we are being supportive.

Another thing you can do with assisting the mindset change is get outside the space. Although you know things in the past that you have enjoyed the same things may not be offered in the current environment. Finding things that you like that are in this environment can allow you to find aspects that make this place a little more tolerable as well as fun. Nature is different here than other states. Finding what you can like or do with the nature that is here without comparing it to the past may assist you with making that connection. Sometimes the way we made connections in the past have to be adapted due to the differences.

Another thing to explore is the possibility of depression. Sometimes when we feel that we are not connecting the same as we have in the past depression may be a factor. Talking with a professional can assist with determining if this is a factor as well as give you personalized tips to assist you with removing blocks so that you can feel more connected and creative in the areas that you need.