How do I move on and detach myself from a person

Hello, I am glad that you reached out.

I am so sorry to hear that this painful situation with your ex happened to you and that you are having a difficult time with moving on. You have taken a big step by not having contact and deleting everything that reminds you of him. When a relationship ends, it can feel like the end of the world. And for good reason: the grief we experience after a break-up has a lot in common with the grief that follows the death of a loved one. Grieving is a natural process after any kind of loss. It helps our brains adjust to our new reality. You are likely to feel a range of emotions — fear, anger, confusion and loneliness. Plans and goals you thought were set in stone may become uncertain, which can create feelings of anxiety and depression. 

If these feelings continue and you are having a difficult time coping I encourage you to seek professional support so that you are not alone and can find the healthiest coping methods to deal with the end of your relationship. Therapy can be an effective treatment for a host of mental and emotional problems, including attachment style issues, grieving the end of a relationship and building your self-worth. Talking about your thoughts and feelings with a supportive person can often make you feel better. It can be very healing, in and of itself, to voice your worries or talk about something that’s weighing on your mind. And it feels good to be listened to—to know that someone else cares about you and wants to help. While it can be very helpful to talk about your problems to close friends and family members, sometimes you need help that the people around you aren’t able to provide. When you need extra support, an outside perspective, or some expert guidance, talking to a therapist or counselor can help. While the support of friends and family is important, therapy is different. Therapists are professionally-trained listeners who can help you get to the root of your problems, overcome emotional challenges, and make positive changes in your life. You don’t have to be diagnosed with a mental health problem to benefit from therapy. Many people in therapy seek help for everyday concerns: relationship problems, job stress, or self-doubt, for example. Others turn to therapy during difficult times, such as divorce. But in order to reap its benefits, it’s important to choose the right therapist—someone you trust who makes you feel cared for and has the experience to help you make changes for the better in your life. A good therapist helps you become stronger and more self-aware. Finding the right therapist will probably take some time and work, but it’s worth the effort. The connection you have with your therapist is essential. You need someone who you can trust—someone you feel comfortable talking to about difficult subjects and intimate secrets, someone who will be a partner in your recovery. Therapy won’t be effective unless you have this bond, so take some time in the beginning to find the right person. It’s okay to ask questions when interviewing potential therapists. The good thing with BetterHelp is that you have many qualified therapists to choose from. 

As you start to resolve your past and current issues you are more likely to have control over your thoughts, increased self-worth, and be on a path to a healthier future and in healthier relationships!