How do you know when your relationship is over?

I am sorry that you are experiencing difficulties in your relationship. Although I cannot tell you when your relationship is over because that is not my decision to make. I can give you insight into a healthy relationship, which may assist you in drawing your own conclusion.

The most profound features of a healthy relationship is trust, love, intentional communication, reassurance, expressions of empathy, and support. Additionally, knowing one another's love language helps in navigating the twists and turns of interpretative perceptions. Relationship is an interactive process that includes internal (unconscious) structures and a cultural dimension, which introduces different values but nevertheless relative and relational. It's important to recognize that you are two individuals encountering each other in a complex interplay of emotions. Each of you are no longer cast in a detached and anonymous role, rather you should be responsive and emotionally present for one another in a creative way, working together. It becomes difficult when the responses are one-sided, which appears to be what you are experiencing.

Allow me to explain it another way. Self-other patterns are established earlier in life through patterns of relating with toddlers and their mother that influence later interpersonal relationships. To this end, individuals search for relationships that match the patterns established by their earlier experiences. If an individual is overly dependent or detached, they are often repeating the pattern of relating that they established as a toddler, which causes difficulties engaging in the everyday world of interactions and relationships. However, once the individual becomes aware of the patterns, and continuity of their lives, they are in a position to modify those faulty assumptions and make changes. Childhood experiences can be reframed by consciously creating a more positive way of living. The question becomes, is the individual willing and ready to make the necessary changes?

You need to establish healthy boundaries in your relationship so that you can feel respected and valued. This is very important because you have a daughter whose patterns and values are established by your actions. Remember, socialization processes associated with social interest (relationships, etc) begin in childhood. If the boundaries are not respected, you need to make a decision.

If you need help in setting healthy boundaries, and processing through your dilemma BetterHelp is here to assist you.