How I should overcome a toxic relationship and focus on my goal?

Good afternoon! 

I want to thank you for your question, and I am sorry to hear about the experience you had during your last relationship. 

After we get out of a toxic relationship where our partner has cheated, we can tend to internalize, or blame ourselves for what happened. "What could I have done differently". "Why didn't they love me like I loved them?". "What is wrong with me for the relationship not to work out?" Those types of questions and thoughts we ask ourselves can continue to compound the hurt and pain we experienced within the relationship. I am also sorry to hear that the relationship has caused issues between you and your family. I would like to encourage you to reach out to friends, or other people that you support or trust, and allow them to be a part of your healing process. 

I would also like to encourage you to spend some time journaling, and reflecting on what you want the next few weeks and months to look like for you. After a toxic relationship, it is important for one to find themselves, and that can involve engaging in hobbies or activities that they enjoy. I want to support you in finding, or doing a hobby that is positive and productive that helps you relax and makes you happy. This could be exercising, drawing, making something, or even something as simple as yoga or meditating. Something that helps provide you with a sense of purpose. Therapy can also be a helpful tool to utilize to have an outlet to talk to, and bounce ideas off of. It can also be helpful to gain a sense of balance and calmness, which can be worked on via deep breathing exercises, stretching, meditation, and even positive visualization. 

I want to thank you again for your time and for your question. I am truly sorry to hear about the experience you had in your previous relationship. I hope the recommendations that I detailed here can be helpful, thank you again for reaching out!