I am going through a lot of life changes and having a hard time adjusting

Hi Sam,

I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult time. Ending a relationship is never easy, and can leave one feeling lonely, empty, and down… Just as you are describing. When a relationship ends, it's not uncommon to go through stages of grief, just as you would as if someone close to you passed away. It sounds as if this is similar to what you are currently experiencing with your situation.  In a sense, you're grieving the loss of a relationship. Grief itself, can be complex, as there are many stages and phases of the grief process. Additionally there are many emotions associated with grief, to include depression, anger, and guilt, to name a few.

When we're going through difficult times, other areas of our lives are easily impacted as well, to include work and school… And friendships. It's very important to surround yourself with a supportive group of people. Yes, distraction is one way of dealing with grief … But know that distraction is only temporary, and really doesn't help solve the root of the issue.

I would be curious as to know what your social support system looks like. It sounds as if you are geographically separated from friends and family. What are you doing to increase your social support circle? This is an imperative part of healing from loss. It's difficult to understand while you're going through struggles, but know that these situations are only temporary, and do generally improve over time.

Please know that you are not alone in your struggles! Help is Available at the ready! Sometimes it helps to process your feelings and emotions/thoughts with a therapist. Working with a therapist can help you better understand your emotions and provide additional insight as to how your thoughts and emotions are related to each other. I'd be happy to work with you to address some of the underlying issues you're struggling with, if you are so inclined. I am confident that you will be able to work through these struggles, and come out feeling like a different person on the other end. You are worth the fight! Hang in there!

Jeremy