Why do my friends and family keep saying I need therapy?

Hi,

Thanks for contacting BetterHelp and for the opportunity to address your concerns.  

You wrote that you and your friend got into an argument.  Is this a pattern with this friend?  Then it sounds as if you were attacked by others for your responses or behaviors. That's hurtful.

Without knowing all of the details, I am proposing the following. This can happen when a person has allowed others to take advantage of them by not standing up for yourself, and when you do finally set some boundaries and refuse to allow your friends or others to be disrespectful toward you, then they can become very angry.  The friendship seems to be dependent on you behaving a certain way and not behaving certain ways.  

When someone finds their voice and says "I'm not going to take this anymore", there will be resistance and push back.  The blame game will start.

Sometimes in a group of friends, one can become the scapegoat. The others will use you as an object to ridicule, blame, lie to . . . many of the things you described.  

You wrote "yet when I am genuine nobody likes me".  I would encourage you to be genuine with everyone. By not being genuine, people form relationships with you based on a fake or phony persona which is not sustainable.  Being genuine is.  You want people form a relationship with you based on the real you. That includes your ups, downs, flaws, imperfections. The whole package.  

If being genuine with others means losing out on relationships (notice I didn't say friendships), it may be for the best.  Since you already have relationships with some of these people, letting go may be difficult.  They sound toxic and unsupportive to what you are going through. To remain in relationships with toxic people who are not sincerely interested in your wellbeing, will do nothing but cause you to feel badly, because you will never be good enough for them to like you.  

If you need ongoing support to address some of the problems you are experiencing, consider BetterHelp. 

I hope you have found this feedback helpful.  Take care.