What can I do when I start to feel distant from everything?

I feel this emotional wall is put up around me from my job but it’s up all the time. I feel distant from everything, including my husband. I try to be more close but nothing seems to help and I can’t seem to shake this distance. I feel irritable and tired all the time. Is there anything I can do to start removing this emotional distance?
Asked by Lulu
Answered
12/08/2022

First I want to commend you for reaching out for help. Emotional distancing can be temporary, in response to a stressful or unpleasant situation, or ongoing issues, which appears in people who suffer from attachment disorders. I think it is important to notice when you begin feeling the emotions and other symptoms that you are dealing with. Determining the cause behind your emotional distancing is the first and vital step in overcoming such emotional problems.  Sometimes, the cause behind becoming emotionally distant is simply a lack of excitement in your life. As simple as this may sound, the feelings you’re experiencing are still hard and difficult to deal with. Other times being emotionally distance is stemmed from a person attempting to shield themselves from unwanted drama, anxiety, or stress. For other people, emotional distancing is not voluntary, it is a result of events or situations that render a person unable to be open and honest about their emotions.

One of the ways you can address your symptoms of emotional detachment is to reintegrate the emotional connections in your life. This may look like finding ways to be emotionally vulnerable by opening up yourself emotionally. This will require you surrounding yourself with people who you feel safe with.

Secondly, you might consider strengthening your relationships as you build a greater awareness of your emotions. Again, this will require you being in a safe place to do so. 

Thirdly, I think that practicing mindfulness would be a great idea. So what is Mindfulness? It is a technique that helps people focus on the present moment, including the physical environment and emotional responses. Please note that learning how to engage in mindfulness can help you learn to pay attention to your emotions and build self-awareness.

I hope this information is helpful for you. I want to stress that if you are having issues with feelings or expressing emotions that have have caused issues in your personal life, it might be beneficial to seek out treatment or other support. A therapist or other mental health provider can provide treatment to address your issues with emotional distancing. 

(LMSW, LICSW)