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Just feeling blah and burnt out and anxious

I guess I'm just feeling under the weather today. It's that time of the month (period), the weather is so cold and miserable outside, and I'm also burnt out of my work. Im currently in 2 final interview stages, for other jobs, but still waiting to hear from them. I guess I'm just scared that after all the process and idealizing leaving, they might not want me.
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Asked by Erica
Anxiety
Answered
11/11/2022

Hi Erica, 

Thank you for reaching out for help. Seems like you might be shouldering a lot of uncertainty right now. The weather change can definitely get in the way of a lot of the things we often use to regulate our emotions or balance us out (sunny weather, lots of daylight etc). Many changes are also hard just because change is hard, and I hope hearing this can help you feel a bit less alone in your struggle to keep the same motivation/balance/etc in tact when things start to change. 

If you were to start therapy, there may be several general anxiety reduction skills you could practice and learn with your therapist to deal with worry about job status, self-doubt about skill level etc. 

We can also explore the things that you have been through on the journey related to your employment and how this relates to your life as a whole on a broader level.

You mentioned you idealized leaving your current job, and I think that is very natural and could be a very healthy decision. Most work environments leave us with a lot of unmet needs for work-life harmony.

It's probably a risk worth taking, as your intuition is telling you, but yes, it would also involve taking a risk and maybe having to 'believe' that there are better options out there or that WE could be qualified enough for those options. 

You may be starting on the edge of the very important precipice in your life and that can come with a lot of just...raw anxiety. I have a lot of respect for anyone willing to make a move towards change even when it brings about anxiety, and like to remind folks that anxiety is a treatable condition and--in situations like this--can taper itself down once we start to open up. 

I hope you are able to find the support and stability you need amidst this time of change. If we were to meet for therapy, even on a short term basis, it may help you find your ways to surf the waves of anxiety enough to give yourself a good chance and seeing the changes you want! 

I wish you all the best! 

Kavin Shah, LISW MSW