How can I survive 2 more months at work?

Hello,
I am heavily burned out of work, it is boring, it does not motivate me, I don't feel identified with it. For personal circumstances, I cannot leave sooner than 2 months (end of February). How do I find strength to continue?
Asked by Sal
Answered
12/14/2022

It sounds like you are in a really stressful situation right now. It seems like you may be checked out of your job as you are feeling really burnt out. Feeling stuck or tied to a job where you are no longer feeling motivation can be tough to manage especially because you may have one foot out the door. And although, you may not be able to obtain full motivation at your current job, but it doesn't mean that the remainder of your time there has to be extreme torture.

Being burnt out at a job can definitely take a toll on our well-being and mood. I can imagine it has been a lot to navigate the toll that it may be taking on you overall. Depending on the type of work that you do or schedule, it may be helpful to take care of yourself at work as needed. For example, taking breaks, which includes meal and other breaks, may seem very obvious, but not something all people do. So making the time to do this can be quite helpful.  One of the many benefits of taking breaks while at work consist of being able to catch your breath especially in high paced jobs. When we are able to remove ourselves (even if it's just for 10-15 minutes) from stressful situations, it can help us clear our heads and also recharge. And when we are able to remove ourselves for a bit, it can provide us with the energy to keep going. If you do have support from coworkers or others at work, you can always turn to them during these times as well. But sometimes we may not and it's important for us to then take care of ourselves in whatever way feels best for us.

Another thing to consider is what things are you doing to take care of yourself when you are not at work. Self-care can seem like another time that we have to throw in the mix of things, but it can make all the difference of how we are feeling in our lives...especially if we are not feeling supported a work. Taking charge of our self-care time is really important as it can help with the burnout. Sometimes it may feel like our work and personal life are too occupied to fit it in, but again, this can definitely take a toll on how we feel and our energy level. And we don't necessarily have to go out of way too much either. For example, taking a bath or shower as we do a mindfulness exercise can help us feel grounded and relaxed. Using your senses to be present and enjoy the water as it hits your face can be quite grounding. Many times we go about life very quickly that we forget to pay attention to the smaller or daily tasks that we complete. Being present even during those essential tasks can make all the difference and would encourage you to see how it impacts your mood. Our mood and level of motivation are very much connected so it is important that we continue to be in tune with it. See worksheet below to refer to Five Senses mindfulness activity referenced above.

https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/mindfulness-exercises

At the end of the day, it's good that you are aware that this job has an expiration date. And sometimes the hope that we won't be in this situation forever can be very helpful. It's okay and valid to feel checked out of a job where we don't feel supported. But sometimes we cannot leave a job as quickly as we would like, and we need to remind ourselves of that. Even if the only motivator right now is that you are getting that paycheck during your pay period, I would encourage you to remember that...especially on those days that feel extra intense at work. 

There are a few self-help books out there that can be helpful with motivation, which may be helpful as you are trying to hang in there. But also, these feelings can sometimes follow us even after we leave a stressful job as it can take some time to process everything. Here are some that I would check out:

1) Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (Self-Help Workbook) by Steven C. Hayes

2) 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos by Jordan B. Peterson

3) Superbetter: The Power of Living Gamefully by Jane McGonigal

4. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a ****: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson

If you still feel like you need additional support, you are welcome to seek therapy services for yourself. I would continue to focus on February is coming up and that you are hanging in until then. But there is a time frame to get out of this stressful situation and that can definitely instill hope that this situation isn't forever. Best of luck to you with everything.