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Am I depressed? What do I do?

I have struggled with figuring out my life for years now. I'm 24, just found out I have ADHD and anxiety disorder that I take medication for. It helped with my anxiety for a couple months but now I feel even more depressed than ever. I can't control my emotions and I no longer see the value in my life. I have too much credit card debt and I don't have a job because I can't go to work because I'm too much of an emotional mess. My parents are very judgmental and have their own lives and tell me to get my sh*^ together and make me feel like a burden. I feel like life shouldn't be this hard or sad. I don't have any friends and my boyfriend's parents look at me like I'm crazy and he is so worried about me. He wants to buy a house soon and travel and and I want to be a good partner and be there for him and be happy but I can't and I don't know why.
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Asked by Sheblonde
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10/24/2022

Hello,

Thank you for your message. It sounds like you have been having a very difficult time. This must all be very overwhelming for you. I can see you mentioned that you have just found out that you have ADHD and anxiety disorder which must be challenging for you. I noticed you say that you have been trying for years to figure out who you are? This must be tiring for you.

So your emotional state is difficult to deal with which is preventing you from going to work? This must be worrying for you and exhausting on a daily basis. When anxiety is high it is very difficult to maintain our emotions and behaviors. I can see you mention that you are in debt? How does this make you feel? It sounds like this adds to your anxiety.

What do you do to take care of your anxiety? Do you have any time where you are experiencing any self care? or activities? It is easy to feel overwhelmed by all of what is happening to you and we forget to take time for ourselves.

I can see that your parents are very judgmental and say particularly harsh statements to you. This must be hurtful and hard to deal with whilst you are already feeling down about yourself. How do you feel when this happens? I can see you say it makes you feel like a burden. How do you deal with these situations when they arise? You say you feel like your partners parents look at you like you're crazy, is that what it feels like? this must be difficult to deal with.

I see you mentioned that your boyfriend is buying a house and he wants to travel? How do you feel about this? I can see you want to be a good partner, what makes you feel like you're not a good partner? Have you any evidence of this? I can understand how difficult it must be when you're feeling this way. At times we can think we know what others are thinking but we can only predict what we think they are thinking. In reality , really we don't know. 

Give yourself time to reflect on what has been mentioned today and possibly give yourself some self care. Meditation is great for when our minds wont stop and anxiety is at a high.

 

I hope this has helped you.

Angela