How do I deal with my partner just putting a bandaid on my concerns?

Thank you for your question. I know that reaching out is not always an easy thing to do and I want to acknowledge that. I would have liked to have had a little more information to be able to more accurately answer your question. I would have liked to know how long you have been together and some information regarding your communication styles. 

When communicating to others, especially our partners it is important to make sure what we are communicating is not placing blame on the other person. How we communicate to others takes time to formulate our thoughts and emotions into the right words. Do you utilize "I statements" in your communication? If you are unfamiliar with those, it is being able to state "I feel __(emotion)____ when you_(explanation). Utilizing these statements takes away the blame that the other person may feel because it puts the responsibility on the one making the statement. The one receiving the statement does not feel they have to defend themselves in the situation.

The other aspect of communication is listening. When we listen to messages from others, we tend to listen to the key words that we need in order to be able to respond to what is being said instead of processing the words and the meaning behind them. Is your partner truly understanding what you are trying to say?

You mentioned that you feel that your partner is avoiding your feelings because they down't want to apologize or recognize their affect on you emotions. Your partner could be avoiding the situation for a variety of reasons. I don't want to try to guess at what those reasons might be without more information. 

Communication is the key to any relationship. The ones involved have to feel comfortable in expressing not only their emotions but also their needs. When one person in the relationship is not feeling their needs are being met it could mean there is something lacking in the communication or it could mean that the person has checked out of the relationship. Right now I do not have enough information to give you much else of an answer for that part of it. 

I would question if this is normal for your partner to do when handling situations that they feel uncomfortable with such as being able to apologize. If apologies is something they do not deal well with they may be substituting the kiss for the apology.