How do you move on from a long-term crush?

Hi CT,

Thank you for reaching out with your questions and concern about your situation.  Hopefully, I can give you some professional feedback that can help you make a decision on what is best for you.

First off, it is normal for you to think about someone in the past, especially if you were really interested in them and it never amounted to anything.  Your curiosity is going to get the best of you. With that said, I don't think it would hurt you to see if there is anything on their end in regards to sparking the flames back up again.

However, in the past, it seems he wasn't wanting a long distance relationship and shared his thoughts with you. Perhaps, things have changed since then, but I think it would be good for you to see if there is still a spark there first.

I do have concerns that he hasn't really shown interest in entertaining anything more of a friendship because his energy is showing that he doesn't even have the time to have a "full conversation" with you. So, if he isn't able to devote a conversation with you, I'm not sure he will devote the energy into this friendship for other things. My best advice is for you to pay attention to his energy towards you and/or his actions and the way he treats your friendship. This may give you clues before you open that door on whether or not he is wanting something more from you.

It never hurts to try and figure something out and get answers, even if they aren't what you want to hear.  It is better for you to have an answer to get peace of mind, rather than wondering and questioning if this would go anywhere. Otherwise, your mind will always wonder when you could be putting your energy into another direction or someone else if he is not wanting to invest or entertain this connection at a level that is more than friendship.

I hope this advice helps and I wish you the best of luck on whatever you decide.