How to deal with my anxiety combined with trust issues with my boyfriend. I’m constantly accusing

Thank you for reaching out to me.  It's not easy what you are dealing with in terms of trust issues along with anxiety. These issues can truly take a toll on your life and relationship. Dealing with the constant fear of your partner's loyalty can make one stay in stress and can add friction to the relationship which at times can become unbearable from either end. As in your mind, you are acting out of fear and your partner most likely feels that he is being attacked for no reason. 

You have Meade good decisions to take professional help as healing from the past issues can lessen your anxiety as well. I suggest that you take individual counseling for your trust issues. Therapy is a slow process and will take time before you see improvement in your personal growth. The process will begin by making you self-aware of your emotions and your triggers. Once you learn more about yourself then the work on healing from your past traumas will start. You will feel in control of your emotions and will perceive situations with a more realistic viewpoint. This will improve your communication with your partner and improve your relationship can give a person inner satisfaction and peace which is essential for mental well being. You will learn the triggers that are the cause of anxious thoughts and will work on them to turn them into positive thoughts. This process, though lengthy can very much make you come to terms with your issues and help live a healthy and positive life.

I encourage you to start the therapy process as soon as you can as dealing with fears, disloyalty, and anxiety can make a person truly question every aspect of their life. Until you find a therapist with whom you are comfortable with you can take work on some things on your own to help with your anxiety and others issues. I am listing these steps below:

1: Calm yourself and ask for help from family or friends 

2: Meditate (guided imagery)

3: Write in your journal and try to change your thoughts into positive thoughts. ANT(Anti Negative thought) therapy. Journaling provides an opportunity to explore the stresses and the calming effect can last a while. 

4: Read self help boooks

5: Eat healthy

6. Talk to your friends who understand you and your situation in your life

7. Exercise daily

8. Be consistent

Hope these tips were helpful for you and I wish you the best. 

Regards,

Dr. Saima