How to move on from someone who doesn't love me?

Mending a broken heart can take some time, but most importantly self-compassion is needed. It can be really hard to hear that someone never really cared for you the way that you thought they should. Hearing these things can bring on many emotions ranging from sadness to anger. It might take some time, but healing is possible.

Breakups usually aren't easy. Reminiscing about the happy moments the two of you shared can make moving on from the breakup very difficult for some people. Whatever you are feeling right now is normal, whether it is loneliness, humiliation, rejection, disconnection, or even disconnection. Some people may even be in a state of shock and go through different stages of grief including anger, bargaining, depression, and anxiety.

Breakups are so difficult because at the start of the relationship, our thoughts tend to be happy and uplifting. During this time, you feel good about yourself. However, when the relationship ends, your thoughts may be mixed. You still have those positive moments in mind, but now that the relationship has ended, you may start to have some judgmental thoughts about not being good enough or thoughts that things will never work out for you.

It is important to realize that your thoughts ("I can't forget him.") affect your feelings, and your feelings affect your actions ("I keep texting him." and " I'm always crying."). When you're feeling down, you may engage in behaviors that you otherwise wouldn't.

As you cope with the loss of this relationship, here are a few tips to help you on your journey to healing. First, take time to grieve. Try to think of the loss of this relationship as a grieving process. So, give yourself some time, and don't try to run out and find someone new right away because you need time to heal what has been shattered. This is the time to honor your emotions and not be so judgmental of yourself. Some people take this time to look inward or see a therapist to work through the complicated emotions associated with a breakup. Second, find a new source of joy for yourself. When you make time for self-reconnection, this can lead to reconnection with what may have once brought you peace, joy, and inspiration, but was put on hold while you were in a relationship. It is time to start refocusing on you.