I’m scared of growing up and would like some advice to hopefully get over this

I’m currently 18 years of age and have been terrified of growing up ever since age 15. In my head I constantly think of how I won’t be able to do fun stuff anymore as a kid without getting weird looks such as, watching old kids cartoons I still enjoy and watch old games etc even getting comforted by my mother everytime I think about this makes me upset and scared. Am I weird for this?
Asked by Alex
Answered
01/21/2023

Hi there thanks for reaching out with this.

I think it is only human at the age of 18 to feel scared and slightly overwhelmed at the thought of going out into the world as an adult. I think one day when the time is right you will feel comfortable being a grown up. At this stage in your life you are still forming a sense of identity and style as to who you want to be.

I wouldn't say it is weird I would say it is human to have such thoughts from early to late adolescence. Let's be honest there is so much more pressure as an adult in the world today. I would say the key is to give yourself permission to do the things that you find fun. Try not to worry so much about the judgment of others. I think society puts a lot of bias judgement on the importance of growing up. If people look at you funny or judge then that is just a reflection of there own inability to have fun.  

We all have an inner child within us and some people are just afraid to let it show. As we grow up and become adults in the world we will have to wear many hats and take up many different roles. I think the key is knowing the right hat for the right occasion. My point being with this is that if you find pleasure in doing child like activities then as long as you know the right time and place for this it is absolutely fine to embrace that part of yourself.  

We all need nurturing in life at all stages and ages. It is okay to own the vulnerability and to ask for it from mum if you need to.

I would say that it is absolutely okay to go out and have fun. Watch cartoons, hug your mum and anything else that brings you comfort. Just because you are getting older and soon to make your own way in the world it doesn't mean that you have to lose the things that bring you comfort. 

I hope this helped to answer your question. 

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