How attraction develops?

            Attraction is something that we long for when dating other people, but it is not always easy to develop.  Attraction has a physical component and an emotional component to it.  For some of us the physical component is more important.  For others the emotional component is more important and then some of us are somewhere in the middle.  It is important to own where you lie in that spectrum and to make sure to let the person you are dating in on to what helps attraction develop for you.  There is no wrong answer there but just important to be clear about where you lie. 

            It can also be helpful to think about how you best receive love and show love.  We are all wired a little differently and this can be helpful to learn about yourself.   Knowing how you best receive and show love can help you be more successful in your relationships.  There are some messages out there that people will magically be compatible but a lot of times, there needs to be transparency in order to figure out attraction.  Sure, attraction sometimes happens more naturally, but it just does not mean it is a bad thing if it does not develop naturally.  Once you are able to learn how the person you are dating receives love it can be helpful to make sure and live that out, even if it does not come as naturally for you.  Showing love to someone you are interested in will come naturally, but it is okay to also learn ways of showing love that really mean a lot to them.

            Attraction develops at varying speeds for every person.  Some of us develop attraction very quickly whereas others might develop it more slowly.  Again, it is important to know where you lie on this spectrum.  When you do not know where you lie on it, you could be worried when an attraction has not developed when in reality you are someone that develops attraction slowly.  It is also rare for both emotional and physical attraction to develop instantly.  One of them might develop pretty instantly but try to not expect both of them to develop instantly.