How does attraction work for a man?

            Attraction is something that differs from person to person and culture to culture.  As people study attraction, they tend to separate how attraction works for men versus how it works.  The interesting side of this is that we are seeing men’s attractions changing with the current times.  For example, 70 years ago, when women did not have many rights, a man would be more attracted to the acts of service the woman can bring to their life.  However, in the present day, women’s rights have improved somewhat, shifting a man’s attraction to women.  For example, men of today are more comfortable with the woman they date having a high-powered job.  This is not always true, but there seems to be a shift with this. 

            When considering attraction for a man, it is important to consider their masculine and feminine qualities.  It is also important to consider the man’s sexuality to get more information about who they are attracted to.  Men, compared to women, tend to be more focused on the physical side of attraction rather than the emotional side.  Again, this is not always true, but something that tends to be a pattern.  Remember to consider cultural influences on attraction because that has a huge impact on it.  For example, some cultures promote a heterosexual male to be attracted to a female that conveys they would be a good mother to children.

            Men tend to be attracted to someone that will give some attention to them.  On the other hand, men tend not to be attracted to someone they perceive as needy and who needs too much attention.  For example, if the person they are dating is expecting them to reply to texts several times throughout the day, that might come across as neediness and lead them to decrease their attraction.  It can be helpful to ask the man you are dating what helps with attraction for them to get a clearer answer.  Society likes to make people think attraction will magically happen, but it is okay to talk with the person you are dating about what helps with attraction for them.