Will relationships survive lockdown?

This is a very common question that many families and couples have asked over the last year,, both openly and privately, in their minds. For this question, the focus will be on the relationships of a significant other or spouse. The idea of surviving the regular ongoings of daily life can be difficult for many and understandably so. The worries and management over finances, child-rearing, home-keeping, self-care and health, and professions are enough to experience stress, and in some cases, even burnout. Adding the extra layer of “lockdown,” which for most has resulted in a huge shift in social and extracurricular activities, much more time spent with family (or alone), working from home, and managing a more sedentary lifestyle for some and more difficulty in accessing healthcare and childcare has been an insurmountable challenge.

What does this mean for relationships?

When a relationship undergoes stress like “lockdown,” going on to become so far, a year-long and counting, the issues that existed before it can definitely become enhanced, and new ones can develop. While many relationships have reported that they have actually improved during this time and have grown closer, stronger, and more mature, some have not. And even in the healthiest of circumstances, some of those relationships have experienced stress. They do not typically because they never get a “break” that is so natural and healthy for relationships. It is much like “cabin fever,” where grabbing gas or milk at the store feels like a mini-vacation!

What can be done to be one of the survivors?

One of the most beneficial activities that have assisted relationships in surviving is a routine and a schedule that includes alone time. Many may argue, where would that take place? That can be a walk, spending time alone in a separate room, going on an errand excursion, taking a long shower, or nap. Even cleaning or organizing space can offer some time away from the “people” energy. Additionally, people who remember to be patient, empathize, clear in their language and needs, realistic, and positive can survive the struggles. Continuing to strengthen the relationships that most offer validation, listening, and friendship can also have a beneficial effect on the main relationship at home. Remembering that everyone has their own unique experience and struggle will continue to create the patience and affirmation needed in relationships.